I'M A 22 YEAR OLD MALE for most of my life i have considered myself straight, i have had multiple girlfriends that i have had sex with and enjoyed it very much. I started having male on male fantasies near the end of my last serious girlfriend a few years ago, and back then gay fantasies have counted for probably 35% of the fantasies I have rising to about 55%-65% in the last year. I have had a couple flings since then with females only. i have never had ANY sex with guys, i haven't even kissed a guy (even though i have a fairly strong urge to do so) and the only guys i have been interested in are in p*rn. I'm not worried that I'm gay, if i am that's OK. but i never come across any guys i find attractive in my day to day life, and still seem to notice females as much as i used to. I still enjoy straight p*rn but i can just as easily get off on gay p*rn , (but its more selective with gay p*rn) do you think this is just a curiosity? or am i actually bisexual or even having some weird transition period into my true gay feelings? please give ANY HELPFUL thoughts you have :bang:
Straight man that's probably watching a lot of gay porn. That's my guess because you don't feel anything for guys outside of porn.
Straight and curious. But I think a lot of times we bury some of our feelings about who we like, then they resurface with porn. That's what happened with me. I had crushes on guys emotionally, but society told me that relationships with guys led to death(AIDS) and sin based on my Christian background. I always thought I was straight although I had a friend with benefits(male) who I enjoyed doing all sorts of stuff with. Denial is a powerful thing. Really though, only you know your innermost feelings. I am voting based on what you have presented.
i should probably also mention i havent had EMOTIONAL attraction to guys i have met, also there was a couple time when i almost fooled around with guys but was scared they were straight. and felt like i really missed my chance. ---------- Post added 10th Jan 2015 at 10:15 AM ---------- is it weird that i want to have emotional feelings for guys?
No that's not weird maybe u should go out on a date or a night club and meet a nice guy. It might be nice it might not. Ya never know until u try it.
At the moment you are still quite young straight man, but you will meet that some guy, with whom you´ll sleep with. With him you´ll become bi and you will start to fight to get back your heterosexuality. But it won´t work out anymore and eventually in your thirties you´ll be gay.
Stirring outlook. ---------- Post added 11th Jan 2015 at 01:06 AM ---------- I bet your are equally homosexual and heterosexual.
do you think my friend was trying to start something with me ? or is that normal straight teen activity ? just realizing i might have not picked up on a big hint
oh sorry i put it in a different forum. i was about 16 when my friend masturbated in the bed we were on while i was there to sleep over,and i wanted to touch it, (and almost reached out for it )but i was 99% sure he was straight which just made me feel awkward waiting for him to finish. because i knew we wouldn't do anything together. ---------- Post added 11th Jan 2015 at 09:58 AM ---------- i decided to post the whole post from the other forum because its more honest 22 year old male i have been curious about my sexual orientation since i was about 16 when my friend masturbated in the bed we were on while i was there to sleep over,and i wanted to touch it, (and almost reached out for it )but i was 99% sure he was straight which just made me feel awkward waiting for him to finish. because i knew we wouldn't do anything together. i have had only one girlfriend, and we used to have a decent amount of sex. but i would always rather be with my guy friends. i have almost fooled around with guys a couple times when i was drunk but got nervous that they would be straight and stop me and freak out n tell everyone i know that i'm gay. that was a couple years ago since then i had a short week long relation ship with a girl, we had sex twice and then i had to leave and we just ended.( i was in another province at the time) but even while we where having sex i felt pretty uninterested and came rather quickly. the whole while becoming more interested in male P*rnography and fantasies ( starting since watching my friend masturbate under the blankets the year before my longish term first girlfriend ) growing more and more confused about my sexual orientation and not knowing where there are any gay communities around where i live to try anything with other guys and do some experimenting. i have had no further relationships with either sex and have watched about equal parts straight and gay (maybe leaning more toward gay) lately i have started to get frustrated with not knowing because i have this pull toward guys that i want to know if it is serious, which i feel it is. most of my fantasies even when they involve women also involve sucking or receiving a man, which excites me like nothing before. i feel so trapped with my sexuality do you think i am straight? bi? gay? or straight and just curious about an actual gay encounter?
I am not an expert, but you sound bisexual. You certainly seem to have an attraction to men outside of porn and fantasies, but you also find women attractive. This is the most simple way to define bisexuality. I do NOT think you are straight with a bisexual encounter, but maybe you are bicurious? What I mean by bicurious is you're not quite sure if you like guys or not, and no worries, that takes awhile to figure out. Don't push it. Whether you're straight or bisexual, EC will support you while you find yourself. ^_^
when did you guys have your first gay experience ? and what was it ? it seems kinda strange to me to just like go to a bar or something and say " hey could i taste that ?" lol jk but how would i just tell someone i have no experience at all? it seems like if i went on a date after telling a guy that it would just be a waiting game the Whole time to try something sexual and see what happens
Unless you are really comfortable with a label, don't try to force it. I wish it were easier to just be "sexual" without having to limit yourself absolutely. I say I'm bi which seems to suit me, but honestly, I like who I like. If you have a gf whom you love and occasionally get off to guys, that should be enough. From the options though, "straight but curious" sounds the most accurate.
Dear friend I find these types of thread somewhat irritating. Why should you matter what you call your self. Just love who you love. You don't have to label yourself. Because labels belong on cans
