So I have just been for sure tested and I have had clinical depression six years and ADD my whole life. I just started the treatment process. I really do want to get my old life back and once I don't feel terrible all the time and stuff I was wondering if I will be as cool as I used to be? Will I be a different person when I feel normal again and will i start to act differently towards othersS? My other question is that I like this boy but I am to sad for him. SoI was wondering if I should start talking with him now or wait until I feel normal again? And if i just started now how long until I can start to Not be so depressed all the time?
You'll have to make the final decision in the long run, but talking to him sooner than later will never hurt. Who knows? Maybe he'll make you start feeling "normal" again!
Yeah but cuz I am depressed I make a ton of suicidal/ddark remarks and who wants to be around that. Plus I stay in bed for like 14-16 hours on Saturdays. I also want him to likw the cool me.
Hey man, good to see you around here again. I'm glad to hear that you're finally getting the medical help you need as last I recall your parents were being a major obstacle in that regard. I can't offer any real advice about this since I've never suffered from depression or taken any similar treatments, but don't worry so much about being cool. Just focus on getting better and then doing whatever makes you happy. I guarantee that there's someone out there who will like you for who you are so don't base your identity on what other people think of you. As for this boy you have a crush on, I say take a chance and try to get to know him better as long as you feel you're in a somewhat stable place. If you just started taking your medication and are having significant mood swings you may want to wait a couple of weeks until you have a better gauge on how it affects you, but other than that, go for it. I think you'd regret never taking a chance more than you would making an attempt and not getting the result you were hoping for. Good luck!
[QUOToanema;2466351]Hey man, good to see you around here again. I'm glad to hear that you're finally getting the medical help you need as last I recall your parents were being a major obstacle in that regard. I can't offer any real advice about this since I've never suffered from depression or taken any similar treatments, but don't worry so much about being cool. Just focus on getting better and then doing whatever makes you happy. I guarantee that there's someone out there who will like you for who you are so don't base your identity on what other people think of you. As for this boy you have a crush on, I say take a chance and try to get to know him better as long as you feel you're in a somewhat stable place. If you just started taking your medication and are having significant mood swings you may want to wait a couple of weeks until you have a better gauge on how it affects you, but other than that, go for it. I think you'd regret never taking a chance more than you would making an attempt and not getting the result you were hoping for. Good luck! [/QUOTE] Yeah It was a long battle but my parents are finally on board. And thanks for being awesome. You always have great advice.
ch59, I understand that you have feelings for this boy and you want to be with him and you don't want him to see you being negative all the time .I think that you need to talk to him and explain how you feel and that you are trying to get some help to make you feel better and I bet he will understand and you never know he may say so what I do not care that you are this way I want to be with you no matter what ! I hope that you figure out what you want to do and how to do it I wish you the best of luck and have a great day !!
So the boy I liked. I asked him to go to panera with me and he said yeah its a date. I am not sure he is gay but apparently he told his friend who told my friend that he liked me. When we talked today I wasnt so negative and he made me feel better. But something happened with this other boy. This boy is super hot and awesome, he watches gay porn, says he wants to marry me and catch me when I fall and be my soul mate, he has fingered by butthole , Grabbed my balls and so on. SoWhen its just me and him he is awesome awesome But because he is afraid of Everyone knowing he is gay which I am too. But around other other people he is very mean to me, calls me a faggot and tries to make fun of me. At first I let it go but after awhile of him being mean to me around other people but nice when its just us, I started saying i don't like you and shunning him. so we became enemies. But that brings us to today. I am changing schools and will not see that boy so today he tells me that he would do anything in the world for me and so I said stop being mean to me and he said ok. But no surprise for the one billionth time he was mean afterwards. Then half joking said he loved me in front of everyone. I said whatever matt And that was it but an hour later we were talking and he said I can pumnch him if I want and i said no i don't want to be a dick like you. So he said again i can punch him like this and he demonstrated slowly and once his hand got to my face he grabbed me and tried to kiss me. He really is a sweet guy but I don't know why he dwas so mean. So I duck away avoiding his kiss and I say how can I like you when you are so mean to me all the time and make me cry alot this year. And he then just pushes me so I push him back. And then he half pushes half hits me so I take a swing at him and barely getts his chin. I have never fought anybody and was so scared. A coach broke us up but didnt care to listen. WE are scheduled to fight tomorrow but I am scared and feel bad about the whole thing. What should I do? ---------- Post added 13th Jan 2015 at 03:08 PM ---------- Sorry for the bad grammar. I typed this on my phone. Also he is 14 almost 15 but he is bigger than me ---------- Post added 13th Jan 2015 at 03:09 PM ---------- Sorry for the bad grammar. I typed this on my phone. Also he is 14 almost 15 but he is bigger than me
Congrats on getting a date with the boy you have crush on! You've already accomplished more than I ever have. As for this other boy, drop him. It's one thing to be afraid to come out or worry that someone will catch on to what you guys are doing, but there's absolutely nothing that can justify treating you like crap when other people are around. I don't know, it's possible that he does like you and just really sucks at showing it, but I think it's more likely that he sees you as a convenient way to get off. You're "scheduled" to fight him? Don't give him the satisfaction. Just keep your distance until you switch to your new school and then hopefully you won't have to deal with him anymore. You don't deserve to be manipulated like that and it sounds like he has some major issues.
QUO=coma;2469399]Congrats on getting a date with the boy you have crush on! You've already accomplished more than I ever have. As for this other boy, drop him. It's one thing to be afraid to come out or worry that someone will catch on to what you guys are doing, but there's absolutely nothing that can justify treating you like crap when other people are around. I don't know, it's possible that he does like you and just really sucks at showing it, but I think it's more likely that he sees you as a convenient way to get off. You're "scheduled" to fight him? Don't give him the satisfaction. Just keep your distance until you switch to your new school and then hopefully you won't have to deal with him anymore. You don't deserve to be manipulated like that and it sounds like he has some major issues.[/QUOTE] Thanks and it will happen one day. And I guess I will keep my distance from him for awhile. He is really really good looking though so that might have been why I kept giving another chance. What should I say if he wants to fight me?
Physical attraction is an important part of a match, but it's only part of the equation. Don't settle for someone who doesn't respect you or treats you poorly just because he looks good. Focus on the guy you have a date with.
Yeah, I would skip trying to fight him. Why? Why does he want to fight you? If it comes down to it, kick him the balls, and run... (that's what my dad always told me for dealing with bigger guys...) In a real fight, there are no rules except don't be the one on the ground getting kicked in the head. Seriously though, I'd avoid fighting. I've never been in a physical fight with anyone, had to break up a couple, but I've done a pretty good job of living non-violence.
omwQUOTEsomethin2470272d]Yeah, I would skip trying to fight him. Why? Why does he want to fight you? If it comes down to it, kick him the balls, and run... (that's what my dad always told me for dealing with bigger guys...) In a real fight, there are no rules except don't be the one on the ground getting kicked in the had. Seriously though, I'd avoid fighting. I've never been in a physical fight with anyone, had to break up a couple, but I've done a pretty good job of living non-violence.[/QUOTE] Thats some great advice your dad gave you. I am much smaller so after awhile i think I would get my ass handed to Mme. and idk why he wants to fight.
Oh, one other thing, if you have a time and place arranged for this throw down, an anonymous tip to a teacher (if it's on or near school property) would be a decent thing to try... Advice my uncle gave me was to always stand/walk confidently, and look people in the eye as they are approaching. Goes a long way to making people think you are ready for anything. (Even if it's all an act, as was the case in my 6', less than a 100 lb weakling stage of development.) Even walking through Times Square back when we were 16/17/18, (late 70's) no body gave us trouble. STOMP Out Bullying :: Are You Being Bullied?
As someone who has struggled with depression for years, I wouldn't advise you to put your life on hold while you deal with it. Even with medication, working thru depression cud take years and you can't deny yourself happiness indefinitely. It's also really important that while ur doing treatment you create a life for urself that u want to live. If u think being in a relationship with this guy is something u want, go for it. Be honest with him about where ur at, but also acknowledge that having depression doesn't make u incapable of being in a healthy loving relationship. As for the other guy, Kindy is right. There's never an excuse for someone who claims to care about you to treat you like shit.
