For the past year now, I've been feeling burned out. A lot of things I used to like I don't really care for, my memory is ridiculously bad, I lost most of my motivation, and I can barely stand people. My grades used to be straight 'A's and are now 'B's and 'C's, and I don't really ever want to DO anything anymore. I've tried telling my parents that I think I might have depression but they just tell at me about "What right do you have to be depressed? You're the one who lost our trust" ect. ect. (Long nasty back history there.) I really don't know how much longer I can take it. And I'm also getting worried because before, I just felt pointless and purposeless; but now I feel both, but also feel really tense all the time, on edge, and have this reply bad feeling that I don't know how to describe hanging over me. My parents love me but are too impatient with me to really understand, as we seem to fight almost every time we talk, so I can't count on their support for anything. I don't know what I should do. Somebody please help me.
You should ask for a therapist to help you. You might look for one who has gender on their list. They can help you sort out your feelings. You might say to your parents you want some counseling or ask for a referral from a doctor, or a conselor from school. Not advocating meds but a therapist, someone you can talk to and who helps you sort things out. Have a look at this when talking to your parents: How to Practice Nonviolent Communication: 4 Steps (with Pictures) Its not making reproaches but stating facts and needs, avoiding a heated discussion. It might take some practice but I found it very helpful. - move. do some exercises daily. A few situps, a regular walk in the sun (a few minutes sunlight on the skin is said to create hormones which might brighten the mood). Maybe look for some sports you enjoy. Do you like swimming or biking ? - lower your standards and do something you like. Start a hobby... do something you enjoy... talk to people and try to get a conversation with them even if you think they are not exactly what you want . Give people a chance, they might surprise you. - go to a course: photography... tinkering... painting... what you like. - daydream a bit. Not excessively but just a bit so you could get an idea of what you want. Then lower your expectations and look what you can really do. Pick a few ideas from here: 3 Ways to Fight Depression and Loneliness and here: How to Stop Feeling Lonely All the Time Even if the first link says without outside help they specifically state to look for help. Look for a counselor or therapist who could help you. There are courses and techniques for dealing with stress and depression. Ask for them. - get involved on EC. Build some community, exchange messages, and after some time you can become a full member and join the chat. http://emptyclosets.com/forum/gender-identity-expression/164130-other-trans-friends.html Here are resources for trans people if you want to talk: GLBT National Help Center and here: Lesbian Gay Bi Trans Youth Line : About Us (they are canadian) (If you are in another country look for transgender helpline.) (*hug*) "If you want a vision of the future, imagine... a boot stamping on a human face." No... there are people involved in development programs who say the future will be good... keep on keeping on...
To be honest , i feel the same . Im like so drained out of energy to keep myself be positive and its been affecting my studies , Ive lost all motivation to study , socialise lets alone live . And ive been slowly going back into depression due to this guy who made a prank on me by writing an apparent "love" letter which turned out to be fake and Ive been away from him for two months due to the holiday system in Singapore , i was happy that time and now i see him for most days of the week due to classes and it just reminds me of the time that all those things happens . And i hate myself for being stupid in believing that a straight guy would like me
that sounds pretty classic signs of depression lurking in there… you are perhaps too young for full on 'burnout' unless you have been particularly highly stressed if it is getting in the way of life, and your exam grades I would definitely push ahead and seek help from a doctor - even if an informal discussion .. and push past your parents - what do they know about these things??
I would say depression is what that gloom and doom hanging over you is. Sounds like the state I was in. Therapy and getting the correct meds is helping with that. Also is helping me clarify who I am as a person. So, I know this is a painful time, but you'll get through this. Seek help where you can find it. On here is a great start for you.
A lot of cases of depression and lack of motivation in your age is a lack of a goal. You're just kinda going through the motions every day and you start to think that's all life is. It is much easier to do it if you have something to work towards. These are just shots in the dark though, am I missing or am I hitting at least a glancing blow?
