Masturbation shame?

I am not sure how to get over it. But masturbation happens in almost every teen. It's just hormones going to work in my book. It's natural. The thing that works for me is that we humans do what is natural to us, however in some cases... the bible tells us to "rise above" that. And I'm pretty sure, the bible talks about lusting in this case. But people are going to do that anyway regardless of how sinful. It's a natural thing that happens when you are stimulated. This is all from my experiences. There is no shame in doing something when your body chemicals and hormones and whatever else biological stuff is going on when it is a natural thing. Just don't let run your life. Everything good in moderation. Mainly, for males, it's bad because it's wasting potential life, spilling seed. For women it's a lust issue if you are religious. But we all are going to lust whether we like it or not. But there is no shame. Somebody told me it was also healthy to masturbate. I dunno if it's true or not... but hey, I will take it and run with it. You don't need to feel shame about it. It's normal and almost everybody does it. Whether they are religious or not.

I hope this will make you feel a little better. I'm not as smart as everybody else on here. But I hope it helps, even just a little.

 

I used to have the same problem. It was never actually stated to be dirty or wrong in my household, but the attitude toward anything sexual kind of implied that that's what my parents thought. So I felt intense shame at times. I think what helped me get over it was the knowledge that it was a natural thing, something pretty much everyone does. I'd just tell myself that whenever shame started creeping in, and eventually that feeling never came back. I hope this helps a little.

 

Thanks for backing me up.

I will get on that...
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http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/masturbation-guide

 

Yes.

Imagine people living in a tribe, living a simple life.
Simply two persons loving each other, or one person releasing sexual tension.

Nothing in exaggeration.
And if possible some peaceful fantasies . Everything in a healthy way .

Its when things are supressed when it gets unhealthy.
Using pent up sexual desire for advertisments...
I read an analysis that tribes where sex is not restrained are more peaceful...

It releases a lot of positive transmitter substances... for joyful feelings, relieving tension...

Its like a brook, let it flow at a natural rhythm...


(*hug*)

 

I've felt the same way about it, that I'm doing something dirty and wrong. But I try to tell myself that being single doesn't mean you don't have a sex drive and taking care of yourself is completely natural. I also figure that since the same ppl who say don't masterbate are the ones who say don't be gay, it doesn't apply to me

 

Everybody does it. Because we see sex as something of a "victory" for guys or at least an interpersonal act of connection, masturbating seems like something of a cheap shortcut. But why should we be ashamed? I wouldn't go so far as to say people can do it in public, but it's pleasurable and harmless, so why make a big deal out of it?

 

Nothing to be ashamed of. It's YOUR body, do what you want with it.

 

I don't masturbate very often. Mostly because, when I do, it's a process. I like to aim for endurance, basically, to go as long as possible. It's weird, but that's what I like to do. I'm not really in it for "the release", which does feel nice, but it fades away after a while. However, raising my stamina, that is forever.

However, you shouldn't feel shame about it. Unless you're masturbating to the thought of mutilated kittens, then, well, that'd be something to be shameful about!

Next time you start to entertain shame, think about why you feel ashamed. Is it because of what others told you? Is it related to some sort of self-perception? Is it because you, for some reason, don't feel you're worthy or deserving of that pleasure? Is it religion? And so on and so forth. Finding out why you respond that way, as difficult as it can be to pry into something as vulnerable-inducing as that, is important for overcoming these types of states, and for your individualistic liberation.

Remember, half a nation "voted" for George W. Bush -- twice! Do you really want to put any weight to what all people say?

If all else fails, remember these words of wisdom:

 

Your sexuality is to be enjoyed ethically.

Masturbation fits with this. Besides, how can your partner pleases you if you don't know what pleases you? :3

 

I feel ashamed because sometimes I use porn to masturbate to. I know that is not a popular idea here and I'm not trying to be a jerk, honestly. I'm not 100% comfortable with it myself either obviously.

I also feel just kind of... pathetic, because I'm doing this because I haven't had a real partner in many years and may never have one again.

I am not saying anyone else is that way or should feel that way! I'm just talking about myself.

 

I had this problem for years and tried to suppress it. It was lots of shame and guilt fed by religion. Definitely one of the more bogus interpretations, especially for men where not doing it can actually cause health complications. Bottom line though is that it is healthy and should just be enjoyed. It's only a problem if it becomes something that you do all day long and can't do things in your life that you need to be doing, like showing up for work, and eating. That actually does happen, but it is a very rare psychiatric thing.

 

I like masturbation and I don't think there's anything wrong with it, I would only feel shamed if I knew someone was watching me. I tend to not like people being privy to my sexuality, the same way I don't like people watching me while I'm on the toilet. Although weirdly enough I'm very much comfortable in the nude even around other people. I guess it's just bodily fluids and the like that I don't really want people seeing.

 

Masturbation can help with menstrual cramps for people with uteruses. It can also temporarily relieve congestion from a cold or allergies.

Hrm. I have a cold... *toddles off*

 

Thanks, that does make me feel better. I certainly don't watch so much porn that it interferes with my life.