Omg, I think I'm going to do it! It meets a little bit after my last class on Thursday. I can do this, right?
Yes!! BTW, I met all of my partners, including the first woman I kissed, at organized group meetings.
Thanks! I have anxiety and this sort of thing can be tough. What if I run into someone I know? Will I have to say I'm gay or whatever?
Well, it's going to be hard not be anxious, but try to tell yourself it will be a cool experience. The first time I went to my campus' LGBT group, I was nervous, but it went really well. It was just very fun and relaxing to talk about completely random stuff with people I didn't know, actually. Even though I'm a huge introvert, they made me feel comfortable -- they're used to doing that sort of thing. I "ran into" someone from my class the second time I went. It was really not a big deal, please don't be too scared. We just looked at each other, smiled a little and said "Hi." I didn't ask him why he was there, he didn't ask me why I was there. Honestly, if they're going to the LGBT group, they're not going to care what your sexuality is. At worst, they might feel a little uncomfortable that you know or guess they're not straight. Actually, no one in the group has asked me what I identify as, and I've asked no one.
If I feel okay, I'll go! I'm sick at the moment (booo) and I have classes spread out over 9 hours, so not entirely sure if I'll be coherent, lol. I think it will be good for me. I'm not out to anyone IRL. Not sure why I'm not, as half my friends are LGBT+. I know they'd still love me, but I can't say the words.
Did you go? If you did I hope it went well If you didn't, That's okay. I kind of know how you feel, There's a LGBT weekly group meet up near me and I feel like It'd be good for me to go but I'm just not ready, I've been on the verge of coming out so many times but I just can't get myself say the words either. Much better than a few months ago though, so at least It's progression.
Good luck! The first time I went to one I was very nervous, also people won't ask your orientation, it's usually considered a big no no in these places since it's a safe space for everyone
Thanks everyone. It's gonna start soonish. Someone in my last class pissed me off by suggesting I wasn't going to do my share in a group project. -.-
I hope that it goes well Group projects are like organized torture... I hope that it turns around for you!
It was great! I ended up talking about nerdy things with a bunch of gay guys, lol. I even met a cute girl! I think she could tell I was nervous and was really nice. They only asked about name and preferred pronouns if you wanted to share. A student from a class I TA was there, which was a little weird. We made awkward eye contact and looked away hastily.
That's really cool! My first time was a little like that, too. I'm glad they made you comfortable. Do you think you'll be going back? Well, neither of you is going to tell anyone, and maybe the awkwardness will fade after a little way. He must have been as surprised as you were.
