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Why Am I Being Blamed For This?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by ZenMusic, Feb 6, 2015.

  1. ZenMusic

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    I come home from school and my parents, and once again, painting the support workers as bullies who barge through your front door, fling accusations and ruin lives. That is not what happened. My dad asked me how much I hated him, and said he had read the contents of the letter and said that it hurt him. Today my Dad described them as "absolute crap" and then had the audacity to say he was not looking for an argument. My Mum then said that it is now down on file that my Dad has hit me on May 26th 2013 and August 26th 2013, dates many parents do not remember or refuse to, and that it will show up when he applies for a job, even though my assessment says that these incidents are historic. My Dad then said that he was suprised I'd mention something that happened 4 years ago, even though this "something that happened four years ago" was the beginning of the end of my relationship with my Dad. I did things wrong like all teenagers a lot of the time, and I will take responsibility for it, but my Dad always took it a step further. Should I feel guilty about anything I told the support workers?
     
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    If what you told them was honest, then you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about. There is never a reason for a parent to hit a child, and it seems that your dad's response to being held accountable is to get mad all over again. That isn't good.

    If you are regularly in contact with your support worker you might share the information. The difficulty will be whether your parents *want* to change. If they do, then there's hope. If not, you may have to start talking to the workers about foster placement depending on how abusive the home situation is at present.
     
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    No!

    .. and four years ago is not a long time. Four years doesn't make it 'OK'.

    (*hug*)