People tend to ignore me in group , even when i tried to talk to them . I'm not sure if im talking too small or my shyness just make people hate me :bang: , is there anyway to be more confident in social situation because at this rate my friend list is going to double this year.( 0 x 2 = 0) I hope i put this in the right place :icon_redf
I don't think people will ignore you on purpose unless there's a reason to. It's probably because they didn't hear you.
Accept that you're quiet... that is not going to change. I suggest you befriend highly social people as they will push you out of your boundaries and you won't take over their spotlight. Win-win.
Being quiet is not a bad thing. It's better to say something wise on occasion than vomiting meaningless words all the time, like many people do.
Totally agree with this, I am the same, very quiet and reserved however my friends are talkative + highly sociable which has rubbed off on me so to speak, and has certainly helped me in that regard.
Join the club. :rolle: People are forever commenting on my quietness, or forcing me to say something. I hate it. I sort of get ignored because of how quiet I am. I pretty much just blend in with the surroundings...
ya..that how i feel , my ''friend'' dont even talk to me except when they need me . I use to talk but not much anymore :/
I have the same problem. I don't think I have much "presence". I've tried befriending more sociable people and it helps with getting invited to more things but that's the most of it.
I'm the opposite; I'm the one that talks too much and too loud. And I think quiet people are often really nice. It does annoy me sometimes when I feel as though I'm the only one actually talking. Talking louder can help be confident when you say something so people listen. I'm sure they're not ignoring you, they're just too busy talking about nothing in particular You don't have to change anything about yourself, you just have to find the right people tobhang out with. Just because you're quiet doesn't mean you're not an interesting person. Find people that appreciate you for who you are and you'll be happier than ever. ---------- Post added 15th Feb 2015 at 06:42 AM ---------- Haha I wrote the longest post. Another obvious sign that I just can't shut up. Si much respect for you guys, I'm not even capable of keeping a single thought to myself.
If they 'sense' you are shy.. they can hesitate interacting with you in a group they don't want to put you on the spot, they sense you might wither away if they say anything to you It can all be in body language.. very subtle things The key is to fight back by putting yourself out there a bit harder, make comments, suggestions, ask questions. It will make a difference
I guess you are right , people usually come sit with me at lunch since Im all alone and the other table were full but they never come back . I want to talk a lot and I do but It not possible for me to be loud around stranger.
Well, you don't have be 'loud' .. just participate in a group - like you see other people doing the same - and you'll be OK. And do it in 1:1 situations too...