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How do i deal with my mother?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by I'm_Danni_x, Feb 21, 2015.

  1. I'm_Danni_x

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    I need some advice. She's one of them parents that will not let me come out because she feels it's not necessary to tell everyone about my gender/sexuality even though its really getting to me. She blamed me when I got bullied as I was out as lesbian and she said that I was digging my own grave. This was when self harm, low self esteem etc began. So she took me to CAMHS which offered counselling every two weeks and the woman I saw was amazing and accepting helping me deal with my problems. Yesterday I told her I was watching the fosters:
    Me: So mum I'm watching this program called the fosters.
    Mum: Ah so it's where the man and woman foster kids?
    Me: Yeah..but it's a different type of couple.
    Mum: Like a gay couple?
    Me: Yeah it is, a lesbian couple they are the main characters
    Mum: (a bit akward and disgusted) Do they do stuff?
    Me: Yeah but the straight people do it more
    Mum: I don't think it's appropriate for you to be watching, puts stuff like that in your head.

    I was just hurt I was suffocated, the fosters and modern family is a form of escapism for me as I'm not allowed to come out and plus I'm out to her as lesbian. She's banned me from watching them. I just went upstairs and cried. I had flash backs when she said she'll never accept my girlfriend and if I'm trans* she'll never let me transition while I'm in her house. But she said that she'll accept me no matter what, but what type of acceptance is this? :bang: :help:
    We where watching and Indian channel where transgender&intersex people where being mistreated and forced into drugs etc and I burst out crying. I was surprised that they where trying to stop the oppression against hijra's (intersex) people which made me really happy. Especially in a country where homosexuality is strongly opposed.
     
  2. itsmary

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    Please don't feel bad.
    It's hard for some people to understand us, it takes time. Your mom loves you, maybe she just needs a little space to accept things. Just surround yourself with people that truly understands you and be who you are. Maybe in a couple years you and your mom will see things way different.
     
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