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How many rejections is enough?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by llamahoox, Mar 6, 2015.

  1. llamahoox

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    I know that asking 'how many rejections is enough', is kind of a hard question to answer as it would be different for every single person. For me personally, I have had a few in various different ways over the past couple of years....everything from "I like you too much as a friend to ruin what we have' to ' I know you too well know' to ' sorry, i cant make tonight' (over and over again) to "i'm sure we'll catch up when I get back from my trip...which I dont leave for for another 5 weeks yet'..and that sort of thing. I guess I am not really asking for any answers, more just a chance to get it off my chest and air my feelings---- that I really think there must be something very seriously and fundamentally wrong with me as a person that NO ONE sees me as anything more than a friend or someone to treat kindly whilst not wanting to say "I dont want to see you again'. makes me think that I am inherently 'wrong' in some way that I just don't know about and no one has teh guts to tell me what it is. I am not a bad person. I am kind and thoughtful, intelligent, creative, funny and caring...all the things people say they want...they just dont want them in me. Part of me absolutely believes that there really is a guy out there for me, it is just a question of when..but then I look in the mirror and I get my answer...and the answer to 'when' is 'never'. And this last 9 monhs or so it has been exacerbated by several of my friends all finding their soul mates and all truly in love..and I am genuinely happy for all of them and shed real tears of joy for them but part of me wishes that I too could be blessed with the same thing they have been blessed with....and then I remember that it is just not going to happen...not to someone like me....not to someone who is there for everyone when they want a shoulder to cry on...but not a shoulder they want to rest their head on and say 'I love you'.

    Sorry for being morose, i just had to get it out there and off my chest. Thanks for reading :slight_smile:
     
  2. Aeolia

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    Oh boy :frowning2: Don't worry, you'll find your own soul mate one day ! Think about karma, yours will be awesome :grin: