Ok my boyfriend passed away two weeks ago and I recently moved back home to Minnesota and living with my parents. Well there is this guy in town who I know from High School and he is gay and wants to have some fun with me. It is wrong for me to move on so fast or would be a slap in the face to my boyfriend. I don't wanna pursue a relationship or anything I just want to have some fun but I don't wanna feel like I am betraying the man that i truly loved who just died. But than I know in my heart he would want me to continue enjoying myself and having fun. I don't know what to think.
Did you guys ever talk about death and stuff? If so did he say he would've wanted you to move on? Plus how long were you together?
anyone would want you to move on and live your life and would be sad if you didnt do so because they are gone and they cant be back anymore and you have to know that the more they cause you pain the more pain you cause them too i think because they would hurt to see you hurt because they left so be happy cause your lover wants you to be happy
ok thanks. I did hang out with him and made out and stuff like that. It felt really good. It does not change how much I loved my boyfriend or anything like that and I know in my heart my bf would want me to be happy.
THe main thing here is whether or not you're ready. Do keep in mind that, while hanging out with someone could be very healthy for you, you probably aren't ready for a relationship yet. If you do find yourself moving in that direction, it may be a "rebound" and you could end up hurting yourself or your friend. Given that you weren't even allowed at the funeral, you probably haven't really had time to grieve this yet; that's something that normally takes months. But only you can know what's going on. And perhaps the best way you can gauge that is how you feel after hanging out with this person. If you feel comfortable and it doesn't feel disrespectful to your relationship, then it's fine to move forward.
The night went good. It felt nice and comfortable. We have a lot in common and did not feel disrespectful. I think what my boyfriend would want me to do is have fun with my life and to enjoy and don't sit around crying over him. I am young I may have lost my boyfriend but I still have a lot of life to live and a lot of love to give and I cannot live my live mourning my loss for forever. Don't me wrong I am sad about my boyfriend's death and I loved him very much and his memory will be cherished forever.
