Hooking up with a total stranger... need some advice

You can't really make any guarantees on the hygiene thing, that'll be up to him unless you demand he takes a shower beforehand. Also are you sure you want to be giving a complete stranger a blowjob? Will you be doing it through a condom? STDs can be transmitted through unprotected oral sex.

 

So what sort of advice are you looking for?

 

Honestly? I would never just meet a random guy for sex like that, 'to release some stress' frankly has to one of the worst reasons I've ever heard. I know in this world of ***** and so on the bar has been lowered, but I wouldn't even meet someone without getting to know them reasonably well first. I would strongly advise you to meet him in a public place first.

If you still go through with it, don't rely on someone else to get condoms and lube.

 

With all blatant and cruel honesty from me..........

DO NOT DO IT! Just say "no"!

There are more diseases and STD's than just AIDS/HIV.
And since you do not know this person, how do you know he's telling you the truth?

He could be lying through his teeth to get what he wants. Which is the case for a lot of males on this planet.

YOU have to protect YOU, because nobody else is going to do it for you.


I would say to never ever have sex with someone you don't know.....but I've heard just as many horror stories from people who thought they knew the other person, and ended up with a disease anyway, or worse.

Yes, I AM trying to scare you, because life is scary and people out there are scary.
Just because he is "cute" or "hot" or claims "innocence" does not mean he isn't a player and user, and will say and do what he needs too, in order to get what he wants from you.

If you are opting for a sex buddy, then I suggest you find just that....a sex buddy.
Someone you get to know, that won't mind getting tested for HIV/STDs for you and showing you the medical proof (and you doing the same). And both of you being honest about any other sexual relations you might have while being friends/sex buddies.

But this too can be a hazard if not done correctly and find the right guy for such a friendship.


What ever you do, question everything, and be super careful.

 

I think that sex, as long nobody is hurt or getting a STD, is pretty much anything goes. Sex is about pleasure and nothing else. I won't judge your reasons. You said you want to relieve some stress, and we are talking short term, that is fine... There are other ways to relieve stress, but what you do at the end it is up to you.

So... Advice...

1. Trust your instinct. As you said...

I would stop if I see the guy is creepy during the meeting. We need food and water to survive, not sex... You don't need to go through an embarrasing situation where you need to stop things when you are both naked.

2. Protect yourself.

This is a golden rule.

3. Don't trust him

Another golden rule. Avoid unprotected sex, even if it is "just a blowjob". Be careful if you are going to drink, don't get too drunk or else you'll forget everything you should remember and end up with a STD or worse (No, I'm not talking about a tatoo here...)

Honestly... I can't remember meeting someone (man or woman) with a clear intention of a hook up. Yes, I can remember we flirted and all that, but flirting is not a compromise. And besides, if you play hard to get, you are going to get better results, trust me.

Another thing is when you meet a stranger and there is a spark between you both. Things happen quickly, and it is ok so, but it is just not the same as meeting online... No way...

You said yourself the guy is creepy... I'm not sure if I would be interested in a date or hook up with a creepy individual.

Whatever you do, trust yourself and your own impression, and be careful out there. Let other people know where and with whom you are going. Take your cell phone too.

Good luck.

 

While I'm hardly the "wait until marriage" type (though I'm also not the send 5 messages on you-know-what app and meet in a dark alley for some "fun" type either), Typhoon, what you describe above just sounds like a bad idea. Don't you at least want to meet this guy & see if you hit it off a bit and can at least trust him?

There's nothing wrong with casual sex, but you need to be safe & thinking about 5 years down the road & not just tomorrow. Also, yes, there is protection for oral.

 

Oh, I see...
Don't know much about that, I'm just your average werewolf myself..

 

You put a condom on whoever is receiving the oral. It sounds weird but it's not that bad. Better than putting a complete stranger's bare penis in your mouth :eek:

 

Very few people bother using condoms for oral. I wouldn't even entertain the idea. If I'm sucking a guy off then I don't want latex in my mouth. What's the point?

I've had hookups with people I don't know - I have yet to be murdered, and I haven't contracted syphilis or herpes. Just keep your wits about you, and be picky.

 

I have only insisted on condom use during oral when I'm unsure of my partner's sexual health history, as I said before, STDs can be transmitted through oral - particularly herpes which is really, really unsightly and unpleasant. It's only a small risk but a risk none the less. It's hardly a crazy idea, especially if you're doing it with a stranger

 

I think there is a lot of unnecessary judgement in this thread. If this is something that he wants to do, I think he should go for it. I would go so far to say random sex is very common among gay and straight people and as long as you are safe and plan then there is no need to guilt the OP into feeling bad about satisfying his need for sex.

What I didn't see is if you are out to anybody? If you are, I would recommend telling someone where you are meeting him, and maybe meet him somewhere public before going somewhere for sex. Also, ask someone to check in on you every little bit and make sure you are okay. I think you should never trust anyone else to bring condoms. Be proactive, and bring them yourself.

Just relax and have fun, but I also wouldn't say completely let your guard down. You honestly never know. If its something you want to do, don't let anyone make you feel bad.