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Repulsed by partnered sex. Additional advice?

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  1. MouseKeeper

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    So, for as long as I could remember, I have been repulsed by partnered sex. It doesn't matter if it's oral, anal or vaginal penetration. I have managed to make my repulsion less severe by masturbating and watching porn(not at the same time), but the repulsion is still there. I know that as long as I am repulsed by this, finding out my actual sexuality will be hard. I can't conclude that I'm straight, I can't conclude if I'm gay, and I can't conclude if I'm bi. I have managed to stop being so driven back when looking at non-sexualized nudity, whether the individual in the picture is male or female, but as soon as it becomes sexual, i.e penetration is involved, I usually become repulsed because the bodily fluids are all I can think of and it grosses me out.

    Does anybody have any additional tips for overcoming my repulsion towards sex? Thanks a bunch.
     
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    What is "partnered sex." Is it different than "sex?"
     
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    Maybe you need to expose yourself to it with someone you trust. If you know that person and feel safe with them, their body and whatever else wouldn't be a problem because you'll be too happy to be with them to care. Really don't know anything else but experiencing it if you haven't. Our expectations always surprise us.
    Also, don't think of it as "disgusting" but something natural. You produce it too so you might as well not see it that way..Hoped I helped.
     
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    I used to be like this and it took desensitizing myself quite a bit. However, people of any sexuality can be repulsed by sex.
     
    #4 Fallingdown7, Apr 2, 2015
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    Sorry. When I thought I was asexual, I would use "partnered" to refer to any sexual activity that involved two people. It sort of became a reflex to refer to it that way.
     
    #5 MouseKeeper, Apr 2, 2015
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    Have you had sex with another person? Not clear...

    Have you tried just using your hands with a partner?
     
    #6 kindy14, Apr 3, 2015
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    I'm actually still a virgin. My girlfriend and I haven't really gotten that far into the relationship yet and so I've been trying to get over my repulsion now so that if or when we do, I won't be afraid to consent.

    I was actually thinking about starting there.
     
    #7 MouseKeeper, Apr 3, 2015
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