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a guy asked me out but I'm a closeted lesbian

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by iti, Apr 6, 2015.

  1. iti

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    I have only just started accepting myself as a lesbian. I went to the gym last night like I do every night to blow off some steam. Someone on a cardio machine next to me started talking to me. He was very nice, but I didn't feel like talking. I tried to get that message across without being rude, but I clearly failed because before he left he asked for my number. AND I GAVE IT TO HIM. Wtf, why did I do that??:bang: Anyway it's too late now. He said he'd text me later about getting coffee or something sometime. I almost said, "no, wait I'm gay," but I don't want anyone to know. So how can I politely turn him down with revealing my orientation?:help:
     
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    Say you're just not interested in a relationship (or dating) now.
     
  3. benabag1212

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    just tell him that you either have a boy friend or you could tell him that he isn't your type or just tell him that you don't want to date at the moment.
     
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    I don't think it's nice to give a lie like he isn't your type or you have a boyfriend (implying you are straight).
     
  5. Mantle536

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    Any # of reasons will do: "I'm really busy at work and/or school," "i'm coming of a breakup and don't feel like dating right now (I've heard all of these before,sadly).
     
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    Just tell the truth.You dont have to tell him youre gay.Did he actually say it was a date? Let him know that its just friendship.
     
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    Or you could just ghost away and not reply to his texts...perhaps slightly rude but effective nevertheless.
     
  8. Fallingdown7

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    Just tell him you're not interested. You don't have to come out (actually, it would probably mean nothing to him if you did).