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They think it's a joke ):

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Winter Maiden, Apr 6, 2015.

  1. Winter Maiden

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    I came out as a trans woman to my friends the other day. But they insist that it's all just made up.They continue misgendering me and it has gotten on my last nerve. One went as far as saying "You're not a woman! Look in your pants and tell me what you see!" I don't know what to do. Any suggestions??
     
  2. absvrdity

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    You just need to keep being you, as hard as it may sound... You need to find people who will accept you and at least attempt to understand you. If you want them to stay in your life, I don't know what to say other than keep working at getting them to accept you; to be quite honest, you shouldn't have to get people to accept you. "Sometimes the people you want most in life, are the people you're better off without."
     
  3. Winter Maiden

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    Thank you so much your advice patd4ever :slight_smile:
     
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    Wow I'm sorry they said that to you (*hug*) they're not real friends hold your head up high and stop talking to them!
     
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    I have no additional advice than what patdever said, but I'm so sorry they said that to you! I can't even imagine how that must have made you feel.
     
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    Thank you :slight_smile: And I darn sure will do n_n

    ---------- Post added 6th Apr 2015 at 06:04 PM ----------

    No worries :slight_smile: Yeah it wasn't a fun feeling to say the least ahaha
     
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    That's really terrible :/ I'msorry they said those things to you. Sounds like you need some new friends. You deserve some friends who will accept you for who you really are.
     
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    It sounds like you are in need of some queer connections. You totally have us for that. It's good to have some face-to-face support as well. My good friend who is transitioning says you will need the support because some days will be harder than others. You need all the support you can get from people who are just like you.

    It's unfortunate that people in society have narrow minded perspectives on gender. Society teaches us our genders based on our genitals when we know this is not always the case. Trans women are women.
     
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    it's pretty upsetting but it could be worse I suppose >.<

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    Thank you so much :slight_smile:
     
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    I think you may try to educate them. Knowing what society's "mainstream" about gender is I'm not surprised your friends didn't understand right away. I wouldn't give up though. There are many brochures and other material on the Internet you could use to show them that being trans* is real, not something you've made up. (*hug*)
     
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    I want to educate them so that thet dont do to others what they did to me because it's truly upsetting :bang: