Lost a friend and i just wanna cry

Wow. I don't know what to say, apart from don't listen to her. Calling yourself a girl is not insulting to transgender people, it means that you are questioning your gender identity. Tell her that a transgender person told you that she isn't offended, if you still want to be friends with her. She is the one being offensive and transphobic, so it may just be best to forget about her altogether, if her statements offend you.

 

She sounds like she was just being an asshat. Where the hell are these accusations coming from? There are actually people out there with a "tiny thing between their legs" who are transgender. It sucks that a friend of yours just turned and said a thing like this. Honestly she's the one at fault so it makes no sense for you to apologize. Maybe you could send her a message, if you still want to stay friends, that you don't want to stop being friends after three years just for a stupid reason like this, that she's being unaccepting (not to mention wrong about what it means to be transgender. It's what's between your ears, not your legs, that really counts.) And if she's willing to be civil, kind, and own up to the fact that what she said was wrong, that you can forgive her and the two of you can keep on being friends.

If you don't think you can do that though, then it sounds like you might have to prepare to forfeit this friendship. The choice is yours, think about how much you want to keep it alive.

 

Wow, that was really bitchy. I sometimes teasingly call my husband my wife (or occasionally I call him princess because he's picky) but he thinks it's adorable.

 

I don't want to sound harsh, but this girl sounds like she's simply mean to you right now. And you're so sweet. If I were you I'd tell her to shape up and apologize. Otherwise, I would not say it's a good idea to be with her if she hurts you like that.

And btw, with you being a girl. Have you told your parents? And also, you can try experimenting with it, you know, it might make you feel good For example, you could try growing out your hair or wearing some makeup, maybe changing your EC gender profile to Female if you want to, etc.
Take care <3 (*hug*)

 

Does it feel wrong to call yourself a girl, though? Does the pronoun 'she' feel right? (Or wrong?) You seem to have a kinship with females. That could mean something. While it could mean nothing, ignoring it will do no good. Try experimenting like Triflow said, if it feels right. It does seem like you could just be a more effeminate man, but that doesn't stop you from trying stuff, if you want to.

Oh, and with your friend: it's not you. Everything to say has already been said above much more eloquently than I ould put it. Just stay strong and pull through.

 

Have you thought about getting one of your girl friends to dress you up as a girl and just see how if feels for you? I know your still very young but a couple of trans friends of mine really struggled with their gender identity when they were your age. I don't think a lot of trans people know what they are from a very young age. I wouldn't say they are the lucky ones, just the ones who are sure.

 

There's nothing wrong with being a gay guy who's friends with girls. Doesn't make you any less of a man, nor should being a male get in the way of being friends with girls. It sounds like your friend is overreacting to her brother's situation and taking it out on you.

 

That is a horrible thing of her to say, and it's not true. (*hug*)

 

That would be assault. He could go to jail for that, so remind her of that if she keeps threatening you. In fact, threatening you with violence is punishable, so if you get some proof of that you could go to the police.

 

There is no shame in that, Dylan. She can't be happy at the expense of your happiness. It doesn't work like that.