Now i am so conflicted because he told me he is gay and deeply attracted to me... I've always had a crush on him and he asked me out but I feel if I say yes I'm taking advantage of him because he is extremely vulnerable right now... Would it be wrong or taking advantage of him if I say yes
I don't think I can offer advice without knowing more. I can't imagine why it would be taking advantage as long as you keep it platonic for now.
If his vulnerability/being a mess is a temporary state, whether on general principles or due to recent events, then you could: A) be up front about your feelings for him and your concern about not wanting to take advantage of him, tell him you are totally there to be supportive of him, but feel you should keep your relationship at the level of friends until his situation stabilizes and he has a chance to evaluate whether or not he still wants to be more than friends without the stress of whatever it is going on. Or B) agree to go out with him, but if he tries to take things to a physical level, thank him but explain that you've decided that when it comes to this stuff you want to date for at least x months (1, 3,6, whatever you decide) before getting physical with someone. A fair number of LGBT people follow some form of this principle, usually because they dislike or have not had good experiences with becoming intimate really early (or almost immediately) with people. Or they wish to only become intimate with someone they have formed a relationship with or the like. If, at the end of x amount of time his situation has fixed itself, woo-hoo. If it hasn't, then you will have had time to be there for him, observe, and can decide whether or not you want things to go further than the level of dating. Hope this helps, Todd
Ii talked to him. He said he has known he like liked me for years and came to terms with liking boys years ago. He said his heart soared when he learned he liked boys instead of girls(I'm using his words not mine) I really like him... He is too scared to tell his dad... His mom is accepting although she doesn't know as far as he knows. But either way we are a couple and I have my first boyfriend and he wants me to be there to tell his parents.
That's awesome. I'd say at this point, it's good for both of you, because no one understands homosexuality like another homo, so you can be there for each other.
Go out with him, bud. Just take things slow, and don't do anything you're not ready for. That goes for both of you.
Awesome! Go out with him. You won't even have to deal with the usual pretenses of dating since you're already longtime friends. That is so great, man!
