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nervous about sex

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by MotherHornet, May 4, 2015.

  1. MotherHornet

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    I recently came out as gay (or pansexual, I'm still figuring it all out a bit), and I am single and looking to meet someone.
    However, I have never had sexual relations with another man so far, and I am more than a little bit nervous. It is something I want, but it is all pretty new and scary.
    Is this normal? does anyone have any advice for dealing with this?
    I'm 22 and was quite promiscuous in my "straight life", I'm not used to feeling so inexperienced ha:confused:
     
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    Hi Mother*******

    It's totally normal to be scared! Take a deep breath and relax.

    Don't be scared to tell the person it is going to be your first time with a man. Tell them to go slowly (specially if you are going to be the bottom), and talk about what you want to do and what you don't want to do. Communication is important!

    Also, remember to use plenty of lube and condoms, if you are going to do anal sex.

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