Hey EC people Well, first some background on me. I have been on and off this site many times, not really for any specific reasons. I came out when I was 15, and currently am finishing up my senior year of high school. Thank god for the end haha. Anywho, I'm joining the Air Force after I graduate, I leave for boot camp on August 11. I'm wondering if anyone has any information on gays in the military and how they are dealt with. I personally don't believe I come off as "gay" as some people would ay, but I would say I'm pretty masculine. So, that being saod, there's not a lot of evidence from the outside that someone in boot camp would expect it. The only reason I'm worried is that I'll be with these other guys from all over the country for 8.5 weeks. I live about 30 minutes north of San Francisco, which I believe we all know has a HUGE gay community. Soi its very accepted here, but u know that people from the south are generally less accepting, especially ones who would join the military. Do you think I should just keep quiet? I'm not gonna tell everyone on day 1 of course haha, but should I just be straight for boot camp? What are your thoughts or suggestions??? Also, on a different topic. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 months now, and I could see our relationship continuing. He wants it to end when I leave, which I can see because I'll be gone for four years minimum, and that's a long time to be away from a loved one. Do you think I should discuss just taking a break? Or just end it completely and maybe meet up later on in life? Thanks for all of your responses!!!
I don't know anything about the military - but I wish you well for a great career it sounds brilliant and I hope they are accepting. I think you will get some good advice here from other EC'ers with experience On the other point … will you really "be gone" for 4 years or still able to meet him … maybe wait till nearer the time as you will both have had a few more months to think on it
In response to the second part, I will be gone physically. And while sex isn't a large part of relationship, a :* is very different than a :* in real life, face to face, lips to lips. Of course I can still talk to him over Facebook, and when I come back to visit home, I would see him, but I dont know where i will be stationed. I could be in Japan for all I know. So the lack of physical contact would be hard for both of us. I really love him, like I could see spending a lot of time with him, maybe my life, but he's a sophomore in high school, and I'm graduating in june. So, he doesn't have a big idea on where he's going to end up or what he's going to do. That's one of the biggest issues that we have. This is the only thing that we've really had a big fight about.
