A lot of the time, when I make a mistake, I have this awful habit of playing the scenario over and over again. Then I give myself this lecture (this is all introspection) on how I'll never get anywhere with that attitude and how dumb I was. I do this so much that I never actually get round to how I'm going to solve the problem. Today I got offended on someone else's behalf, and I've spent the last few hours beating myself up about it and telling myself how I was becoming what I couldn't stand and so on. Do you ever do this?
I'm very hard on myself. I make a big deal out of the smallest things and act like I really screwed things up. I've started to change my attitude though, like taking deep breaths and realizing that I did something wrong, and in knew what to do next time.
If I think I'm going to mentally play a scenario over and over again, I might throw myself into work or a video game; something that demands my attention. I can examine my feelings after I've calmed down. I've done plenty stupid things as well and I usually learn from them. I find it helps to remember that everyone encounters failure and I'm not alone with that feeling. I guess I'm a little hard on myself. Self-kindness would backfire on me. I have to be tough with myself, in order to get things done. I'm a lot better at dealing with my feelings than I was in my teen years.
It is just a sign that you want to continuously better yourself. Don't beat yourself up for it, rather embrace it. Learn how to use it to your advantage. Those who do so become better people in life. It's a gift........
Oh, I'm famous for being too hard on myself. Got a thick skin, thicker skull and I'm half deaf to criticism, so... I just need to keep the bitch on a tight leash.
I have been known to be very hard on myself. For years, especially in middle school and early in high school I would be much harder on mistakes that I make rather than other peoples mistakes. I felt it had a correlation to me figuring out my sexuality. I am gay and I love being gay, but years ago I really was nervous about the whole idea. I knew I couldn't change, and I didn't hate myself, but I did feel worried about the future. It went away as i accepted myself.
I can be really hard on myself... Like sometimes it takes me whole weeks to get over something I think I could have done better...
Yeah, I'm pretty hard on myself I've improved a lot of things, but I don't give myself much credit for them. I probably underestimate myself in certain respects and thereby deny myself things.
I used to be very hard on myself; but not anymore. However, I do tend to beat myself up sometimes over emotional stuff.... And whenever someone says I'm useless... ;P That's a trigger for a few past negative feelings often times.
