Dating Other Women While I'm Still Kinda Closeted?

Maybe you could wear a little lgbt badge or search on internet for a lgbt bracelet there's a few that are nice and not too bright but just get the message out. I bought one its leather with eggshell rainbow colour's intertwined in it, it's not too bright but gets the message out to people who know

 

It's okay to date women, yes... And it's important to be honest. You do run the risk of "burning" a woman if you go in, get in a relationship, and then decide to drop everything because you can't "do" bi, you don't want a relationship with someone who isn't a man.

But if you go in and are honest about yourself -- you're questioning, you're not out, maybe you even want to experiment --, the other woman, unless she's into lying to herself, shouldn't be "burned." She'll be able to decide whether dating you is something she wants to do or not. You'll be limiting your options... but you'll be drastically reducing the risk of hurting someone else.

Just out of curiosity, why are you contemplating living as if you were straight, and never coming out? Being straight is probably easier, but hiding who you are, that's hard. -- And why are you thinking of dating women, if you would rather not?

As for your question regarding letting other women know... I come off as straight based on appearances only, too. Around girls I'm interested in, or LGBT people I want to tell I'm "family," I just talk in a way that it's pretty hard to mistake me for straight. I talk about a crush, for example, or an LGBT news story that touched/angered me... That kind of thing. With someone I'm interested in, I flirt. Gets the point across eventually.

Rainbows are also a good idea, if you want to be out without even really mentioning it. Badges, pins, bracelets, t-shirts, whatever. I walked around with an AIDS awareness ribbon pinned to my bag for months earlier this year and was picked out by LGBT strangers in a different country as being "one of them," interestingly enough. People pick up on these things when they're looking.

 

As always Lyana gave a great answer and put things better than I could. The only thing I'd add is that maybe you could take the time to really think about whether you're ready for a same sex relationship right now, because yeah, you could end up really hurting someone if you get close and then pull back because you're not ready yet. Even if it's not personal, it's hard for people not to take it personally. It happens often enough that it's a cliche unfortunately.

I struggled with the same thing so I totally get it, but there's no rush either. Also from the way you described waiting for a guy and trying to "tough it out" makes me think you wouldn't be very happy if you closed off the part of yourself that's attracted to women.

 

Get some lgbt bling on and get yourself out there the world is your oyster.
The rainbow stuff can be a brilliant conversion starter even if people think you're a straight ally I find they usually endup asking then you can tell them your sexuality