I am a partially out Lesbian but boys keep approaching me . I am too afraid I tell them I am a Lesbian n too nice to tell them off ... What should I do ? need advice
One thing to remember is a 'no' does not need to be justified. Don't get mad, don't explain yourself, just say I'm not interested. Don't apologize, and if they ask you why just ignore them, would be my suggestion.
This is a difficult problem to deal with. My best friend is a brilliant writer and is the most amazing woman to be in the presence of. If you are in the room with her you just automatically feel like you are in the presence of someone special. She carries herself very well socially but she also struggles with this issue a lot. And not just form men but from women also. It takes a toll on her and is very tiring. I wish I knew how to help her. I don't have this problem at all, in part because no one is all that attracted to me, but also because I'm not that sensitive to others feelings at this level. I keep thinking it's her sensitive nature and natural beauty that makes her so attractive and is also, ironically, causing her to constantly be in this awkward situation with people who don't know how to tap into her energy in a non-distructive way. My only suggestion is to find friends who you trust that can support you and have them accompany you whenever possible. Of course that won't help you in every situation but plan it whenever you can to help relieve your stress along the way. Good luck!
