My friend posted on instagram and said she's sad that she doesn't have any lesbian friends. I've been friends with her for 5 years but I've never came out to her because it never came up. I don't want to just randomly tell her when there's no point, but I don't want her to think that she's alone because I know how much it sucks to have to be around straight people 24/7 lol. It's kind of hard to find gay people where we live that are our age. I don't think she has any idea that I'm a lesbian. Should I direct message her on instagram? Or say nothing? How about being like "I'm your lesbian friend! You didn't know?" lol I'm bad at this sort of stuff
If you're comfortable with coming out, then mention it. But that's only if you feel like coming out to her.
I kind of want to comment on that picture but I'm scared because everyone will see it. I want to tell her or text her or something but it's kind of awkward. help meeee lol
Do you think you can trust her? If so, maybe text her... I don't know. You should not do anything that will make you feel uncomfortable.
You stated the point pretty clearly; she mentioned that she doesn't think she has any lesbian friends and the point to telling her would be to clear that misconception and turn her feelings around. Trust me; if somebody's receptive (like she is bound to be), it is amazing to share a very intimate part of yourself and bring the two of you closer together. A simple message like "I'm your lesbian friend" is an awesome way to say it.
I want to say that but do I comment on the picture or tell her somewhere else? I'm scared that if I randomly message her saying I'm your lesbian friend she'll think that's weird lol. I'm kind of scared commenting on her picture publicly though. It's awkward to come out to someone where everyone can read your conversation you know lol
You can message her privately if you don't want to come out to whomever sees her post. I "cold-messaged" three different people since the gay marriage announcement to come out to them (turns out they were all some variation of bi or pan), and it has been all kinds of wonderful knowing I'm not the only non-straight creeper who just never got around to saying it It won't be weird at all; what is fb messaging for if not talking to friends? I'm sure she'll love to get one sent from you.
I sent the message 6 hours ago and she still hasn't replied, yet she's retweeting things on twitter right now...#suspicious lol
When y friend came out to me that he was gay, we were only 13, and I was the first person he told. He gave me notes and clues written in codes and other languages, lol I guess he was really worried someone would find it. But, in the end, he could've just told me directly, and I would've been cool with it. If your friend is a lesbian, she should be very understanding, although maybe a little shocked if she's been friends with you for so long and never suspected anything about you. Maybe don't comment on it if it is public, in case someone on insta is a homophobe, or is a gossipy person. Also be careful telling her via inbox/PM in case one of you gets hacked or it somehow gets leaked. Regardless, just take your time, whenever you guys are talking alone, w/o anyone else around to bother you. Good luck with everything!