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Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by j13, Aug 2, 2015.

  1. j13

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    so yesterday I had an epiphany, and not a good one.
    Unforunately, I realised that my closeted homosexuality is hurting someone so dear to me. But I also realised that coming out will hurt them much, much more. Im stuck between a rock and a hard place.

    so I try and keep my distance for a whil?
     
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    Can you elaborate on why/how (1) not telling and (2) telling will hurt the person?

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    she has been one of my closets friends for a very long time. Yesterday she disclosed feelings for me. Obviously I don't reciprocate them, but I couldn't explain why.
    Not explaining hurt her
    Explaining will hurt her more
     
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    I personally feel explaining would hurt her less, because she'd know why and she'd also know that it wasn't anything wrong with her as to why you don't like her romantically.
     
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    I totally agree with Leifa, if I was to have feelings for a guy that happened to be gay. I would appreciate him taking the time to tell me that he just isn't into woman and that it's not about me. I would have no problem with that, would be extremely supportive of him and actually relieved. :slight_smile:
     
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    I know what I am about to say is very very selfish. but I don't think I am ready to come out yet. I do want to, but I don't think I am emotionally ready. I don't think I would have he support I need.

    But THANK YOU so much for all your advice =)