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Ignorance about queer people is literally driving me crazy

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by sporn, Aug 11, 2015.

  1. sporn

    sporn Guest

    Whenever I tell people I don't label myself or identify as queer they ask a lot of questions. I understand why they do. They're just not satisfied when I tell them that queer is another word for not straight.

    They all want to know what genders I'm attracted to. That makes me so fucking angry. I've tried to explain my sexuality to people, but they didn't understand. It's way too complicated for them. I understand. It's too complicated for me.

    I now mostly give up exposing my sexuality. I just tell them my sexuality is indescribable. They just take it as a challenge. They think they're special or smart enough to understand my sexuality. They never are.

    Luckily this is just people I'm talking to online. Whenever this shit happens I scream, punch things and slam doors. I'm generally not an aggressive person.
     
  2. That one guy

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    I think that that's just the way people are, they aren't used to people who don't label themselves and so ask questions, I guess the best way to avoid it is not tell them
     
  3. sekliniak

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    That must be really frustrating. I identify myself as queer too but fortunately most people accept my sexual orientation.
    I think it's normal that they're asking lots of questions. I even like it because it shows me that they're interested and want to understand it.
    But i think there are only few things you can do against the ignorance of some people. You can try to make them understand you but you can't do anything if they dont want to understand. The best thing is probably to stop caring about their stupidity.
     
  4. SelenaFloyd

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    You cant fix stupid. That being said, most people don't educate themselves or even know where to begin to educate themselves on this. I've only just begun this process. I learned what gender fluid truly meant last night and that it describes me from the start. As far as sexuality goes, its kind of the same process as far as education goes. If they can't manage to google and educate themselves in what you are trying to explain to them, then it isn't worth the fight. You're just hurting yourself in the end.