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How to just be myself?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Rainbows~Exist, Sep 25, 2015.

  1. Rainbows~Exist

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    I'm having a really good time in college (for now anyway) and everything's going great expect for the social aspect of it. I have made some new friends but I feel like I'm becoming the 'quiet one' in the group, something that I do not want to become again. I really want to be more involved in the conversations but when I think about speaking my heart rate rises, I get shaky and tend to keep my replies quite short. I hate it. I have so much to say but it feels like I physically can't just let go and be myself around them. Due to this I'm having paranoid thoughts that they're starting not to like me and it's really damaging my confidence :frowning2: my only problem is starting to speak. When I'm in the flow of talking I'm fine but initially I feel like a blundering mess who comes across as boring...

    I guess I just want some advice on how to relax in social situations and on how I can express myself.

    Thanks guys (*hug*)