High school is lonely...jealous of straight people

I feel you bro,(*hug*)
There are 1700 smth students in my school , 700 of them are males and none are gays (except for me) and even if there are any , no one will admit it, obviously.
I never had a boyfriend and I've never kissed anyone before (I would kill for a kiss)

But, like my girlfriends told me , you have to hang in there , until you leave High school, it's just a matter of time.
I assume you're a senior as well, so you have to put in mind that you will stay in High school for just few more months (7/8 months) and then you will finally be free of that fake "small world"

University is a wonderful place , where every one can express themselves , so you will sure meet your special some one there <3


Ps: I wish we were at the same school , I'm sure we could have been BFFs or maybe you could've been my BF who knows lol

 

Oh my God! Excepting the age (which is fairly close) I'm going through every single thing you wrote up there.

And you know what? Screw relationships for now. Have fun with your friends. Build the rocks you will fall onto when you get out of your first relationship. Befriend people who support LGBT rights and you have many things in common with. It's so funny (and relieving) to have at least one person you can be honest with. I'm talking about boys with my girl BFF so much and it makes me happy and confident having her beside me. If I were straight she'd be the love of my life, and you know what? It's even better to have her as a friend.

I'm not going to say that we're strong and independent and we can live without guys, because we can't. We'll go through that dating and love phase of our lives sooner or later. But in order not to feel chained and bound to that person we need friends. True friends. Always.

Hugs!

 

I'm 22 and I haven't had a first kiss yet. Hi :smilewave

 

Hey Sneaky,

I think we all feel what you're going through.
The loneliness, the stuckness, the fear perhaps that nothing will ever change. Things always change though.

The chances of there being no other LGBT people in your school are pretty slim, is there a reason that there's no GSA?
Statistics estimate 10% of the population to be LGBT and even the strictest anti-LGBT groups admit to there being at least 1% (meaning between 9 and 90 students in your school).

Just a thought...
Even though you seem to be pretty close to finishing high school, is there a teacher or someone you can talk to about getting a GSA started? Even if it were just you and your friends who were in the club initially, it's at least a start.
Imagine it being the legacy that you leave behind when you move on. A way to be remembered by future students.
I can totally understand if you're not confident enough to do something like that, but you're out of the closet and from what you've said - it seems to be a pretty safe place to be out - so that's an amazing start and you should be congratulated for that.

Peace be with you (*hug*)
mt

 

Same kind of problem here. I just keep telling myself that I need to be more patient. Life is full of opportunities, and you're not even out of high school yet, so you've still got a long road ahead of you.

But yeah, it's hard seeing all your friends go on dates before you...

 

I know this feeling to well. I just focus on my school work and meeting new friends(even though im very awkward and very shy.) I know a guy will come into my life one day and that will happen to you. Someday you will meet a guy it takes time.

 

As bizarre as this may seem, here's a life pro tip:

When you want somebody in your life, it doesn't always happen. A lot of people can sense/feel that desperation, and it turns them off... well, those seeking a healthy relationship. Manipulative or self-destructive folks love when you're desperate; it's all the benefits without any of the commitment, basically.

Even if you are the kindest, smartest, best person in the world... in the beginning, and sometimes even during... if you come off as desperate, people won't see you in a romantic light. They'll see you as dependent and not what they'd like in their lives, as somebody strong, independent, and handling business.

When you don't go looking for it, suddenly, folks flock to you. But you have to make yourself also a little available, let them know you're available, and things take off from there.

Finally, if it helps, I'm a little over 29 years old. Never kissed on the lips, only had my first cuddle this past winter, and I've yet to have sex. I've been on dates, for all intents and purposes, but never had a relationship. But the reason it doesn't work for me, isn't the same reason as yours. Yours, I believe from what you have shared, seems to say you can remedy your situation.

 

Sorry to hear that.
It's really hard to be patient when you see everyone else easily dating and falling in love with each other. I wish I could tell you something to make you feel better about it.
The truth is - finding love gets easier for some LGBT people, and for others it stays the same, but it rarely gets harder.
Try to hold on to hope if you can.

 

I concur on all these above posts. I am bi which in a sense means that I can have both lol but obviously not at the same time! I would say just embrace your life and once you are happy with it who cares? Maybe you think a lot of people would care but trust me ignore them. Anyway at the end of the day you are who you are, not a person defined by influences of other. Keep a good positive mental attitude and someday you will get there and it would be definitely worth it! I have only ever kissed girls but I always think about men so it is much more than just the odd fantasy.

Good luck and take care,
TheBiBoy