Hello again Open Closets, I've had great advice come from this community in the past, let's do that again! Okay, so I'm/I've: 25 years old In a stable committed relationship for ~4.5 years Struggle with depression and anxiety Lost a decent office job of 2 years Started my own company that has yet to be successful Here's what's going on; My boyfriend (Daniel) has a crush. We'll call him Sam. Sam is an incredibly attractive young STRAIGHT guy. He's Daniels best friend's, best friend. Now, I know Daniel having a crush on Sam isn't inherently a bad thing. He can have a crush on whoever he likes, it's biology. My problem starts when Daniel starts text messaging Sam things that I find inappropriate. Daniel like to flirt with Sam in these convos and it bugs me. I KNOW Daniel isn't going to cross a line physically. I know that it's just 'fun' for Daniel to flirt with a hot straight guy; but it gets me all worked up thinking about hypotheticals... I can't help but think about the 'what if' and 'I must not be good enough'. I've talked to Daniel before about how I don't like the flirty messages or semi-secret conversations. I'm not going to invade his privacy by going through his messages and seeing exactly what's being said (been there, never going back). I need to know how to talk to Daniel about it without coming off as accusatory... :bang: Any ideas?
