Why do I care so much about what other people think?

I feel the same! But I've found a positive in that. It makes me become the best version of myself for others. I try to make it more about wanting them to see the good in me, rather than being scared that they'll find out the bad. I don't really know how to deal with it either. Sorry if this wasn't helpful, but I just wanted you to know that there are others in the same boat as you.

 

I often felt like that over the last couple years since I came out. I'd wonder if in the general world if I was acting too gay. And in the "gay world" wondering if I was acting too straight .

Similarly I was unsure of how much my straight friends wanted to know about the cute guy I seen or whatever.

Gradually I've been not worrying about these things as much but I do think its okay to worry about this stuff a little. Its always a good idea to be cognisant of what others reactions may be.

I don't really have much advice other than to put yourself out there. Which I completely understand is difficult. (just last week I passed by a student group I wanted to join but didn't cause I didn't want to be out of place ) but once exposed enough to something I worry about it less.

 

I feel that way too. I have to say that it is exhausting always trying to be perfect so that no one ever thinks badly of me.

 

i do that too, but ive been taking on the "fuck what other people think" mentality too