Do you trust other people??...How can I learn

Hi faceup,

The ONLY way to learn who you can trust and who you can't trust is by trial and error; sadly.

Everyone has been burned by putting their trust in someone that ended up stabbing them in the back.

The only thing to do after you been stabbed in the back to pick yourself back up and learn never to trust that particular person again.

And after a few back stabbings, you can know whom to trust and whom not to trust.

This will a lifelong cycle because we run into different people under different situations all the time.

Hope that helped. (*hug*)

 

Im just gonna be honest, im in exact same spot as you. Its so bad for me , i have trust issues with my own relatives sometimes.

 

It's not just you. I more or less have the same issue, and I don't even have many specific incidences to point to, to understand why I am this way. It's incredibly difficult for me to trust enough to open up about anything personal, even to friends I like very much. There is quite a lot of anxiety and just general automatic reservedness when it comes to these kinds of things with me. And it's not like I hate my friends or think they're going to automatically turn on me either. So. Who knows why I feel this way?

I'm sorry that people aren't sincere with you and often talk about you behind your back. I honestly wish I could help or give some advice but in some ways I'm in the same situation. All I can say is sometimes it does take some courage, and like SonicBoom said, a fair amount of trial and error too. You will find people who are insincere or who turn against you, but then again there are also people who you can confidently confide in, and it takes time to find that circle of people to build healthy and trusting relationships with. Good luck though.

 

I genuinely do trust people. In my experience people tend to live up or down to your expectations. I expect people to be honest and kind and realize that everyone slips up from time to time, including myself. And I don't just mean expect as in what I quasi-demand of people, I mean I go into situations honestly believing that that is what will happen. And in the vast majority of experiences it really is what happens. I'm not a real fan of hippy dippy stuff, but I really do think that the universe sends you what you honestly think it will--not what you want, but what you in your heart of hearts think will happen.

Yes, from time to time people will disappoint you or even hurt you. You will do the same to others. But I firmly believe that by not trusting people, by shutting down the way people do, you will hurt yourself much more than the occasional other person will if you open up and believe in people. Just my experience...