After 10 long months of a very very painful, most likely unreciprocated crush, I finally feel like I've moved on (!) Possibly just to keep my mind occupied, and possibly because I'm lonely, I suddenly developed a crush on a girl who I've been talking to for maybe six weeks now. We talk to each other so easily and as someone with social anxiety this is a big deal for me. However after hearing her talking to one of her friends (my ex-crush, in fact) I discovered that she is ace. Obviously this doesn't mean she's aromantic, and I did hear she met a boy she liked at a university open day who hasn't had a follow up, so I guess she could still like me romantically (although I still don't know if she's into girls). It's just so hard to bring it up? It feels sort of offensive and ignorant to ask her who she finds attractive, especially if she is aromantic as well? There've been moments when I thought we were bordering on flirtation (not that I'm have any sort of knowledge in that department). She fell off her chair in class today and I asked her what she was doing - her reply was 'falling for you' She told me in a very round about way that I looked cute. Sometimes it feels like she's going out her way to stroke my shoulder or touch my hand. She remembers little details about me. I am absolutely fine with a relationship with no sexual contact - tbh sometimes I've wondered if I'm ace/demi myself. Eh, I guess I'll see how it goes. Partly I'm just very very relieved not to be going through the self-destructive crush I had for so long any more. Thank you for reading... sorry for rambling so much :icon_bigg
It does sounds like she might be bi or panromantic (judging by her actions, I could be wrong though). As an ace I personally wouldn't mind if someone asked what my romantic orientation was so I don't think that'd be a big deal. You could bring it up when there isn't a lot of people around like 'so I've heard you're asexual, totally cool with that, but I was curious to what your romantic orientation is if you don't mind me asking?'. By the way, best of luck!
Yee, I belong to a social circle that is very 'politically correct' and socially aware, which is obviously amazing, but I think asking something like this would be considered too prying. Even if she didn't mind herself, I think she might dislike the principle of me thinking I had the right to ask, and while I'd love it if someone asked me about my sexuality (I could talk about it all fucking day; I think it's the most interesting thing ever) I can see that it'd be a bit nosy. That or I'm reading too much into everything thanks for replying, it means a lot
