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Met a guy (HOT) at club

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Ashanti, Jan 10, 2016.

  1. Ashanti

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    Hi,
    I met this cute guy at the club,
    We danced n drunk a bit then i asked for his number and we swapped,

    Then after the club closed he asked if i'd like to come to his apartment which i did and when there we chatted kissed and some foreplay then he pulled me to the bedroom where we did everything "but no sex"

    Should i continue to meet up with him in the future or MOA (Move on already)
     
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    Thats up to you. You seemed to enjoy his company so I suppose keep seeing him.
     
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    Well, that last line was certainly abrupt.

    What makes you think you should move on already? Do you want to? Does he want to? Or are you just scared?
     
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    If you like him, why not continue? Unless there's a reason that makes you hesitate.
     
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    Hi Rawring snake.
    It's because I'm the type that fear's rejection if i start getting feelings....
    So I'm just being Careful as "club hookups" usually are for just one thing.

    as soon as you mention feelings they tend to get put off, end it, or think your clingy.
     
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    To be fair, it is a little early to be catching feelings in this particular instance. You've only known the dude for one night lol. Take it one step at a time, but if you like each other (or what little you have known of each other so far) and you want to continue seeing him in any capacity, I say calling it quits now for fear of rejection would be premature. True, there is the possibility that you two might fall apart down the line, but you can't win if you don't take any risks.

    Just think of him as a new friend instead of a potential partner for the time being, that should steer you clear of "clingy" territory. I think what scares people away is when you barely know someone, and yet the other person is already thinking years ahead or is trying to rush things because they would take anyone over being alone. Avoid those pitfalls and I say you've got a shot at this. If that's what you both want, that is.
     
    #6 RawringSnake, Jan 10, 2016
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    Thanks RawringSnake

    LOL at knowing the dude for one night, u r right!

    I'll just not text/call him and of no contact in say a week I'll call it quits.

    Thanks for the advice