I'm not quite sure how to word this question. Basically there's a lot going on right now and since I'm transitioning socially as a transgender male, it's making it more difficult to figure things out. I'm 17 (although I'll be turning 18 in a few months) and I have to find a job, start a new school which I'm very far behind on credits with because I had to take some time off, look into LGBT friendly colleges (especially with transgender), but the problem is I want to find a LGBT or gender identity specialist therapist to help me explore all my options with transitioning and to talk to them about my identity - but chances are I'll be going to a college out of state. I'm not originally from where I'm living now and never really liked it, but I'm aware my rights aren't as protected as in some other areas nor can I get as much help that I need - as far as I'm aware from my own personal research. Which is why I prefer to go to another state for college and probably move there after saving up enough money. So I'm not sure if I should be putting off the therapist or not? I'm confused on how to mix all of this in and no matter how I do my scheduling, I can't even go to local support groups to help me because they start too late or they're too far away. And I'm not even sure where to begin looking for colleges (especially since I'll be needing financial aid). And I'm not sure how much help I can get with my being transgender while on a campus if I go somewhere not local from where I am now. :eusa_doh: Can anyone give me some advice?
I would say find a local therapist even if you won't be with them that long. If they are any good, they will have resources or advice for all your questions. Good college choices, possibly other therapists in the vicinity of said colleges or how to find one there and any of the other questions you have. Whether you actually get into the therapeutic part of things, I would definitely use them as a resource for the decisions you want to make. That LGBT centre might even have someone you could talk to over the phone if it's not convenient to go there in person. I wouldn't put it off. Even if you just get one question answered, you'll be moving in the right direction. Good luck!
I second Really's advice as I would do the same thing. Like progress is counted even if its only question by question. I am sure there are plenty of colleges that would support you. There maybe the odd phobic person but just ignore them as bullies feed off reactions so if you dont react they would get bored. And just report the person to the authorities Good Luck, Gay1234
I think you might be surprised to find that many colleges – especially public colleges – have very robust LGBT student organizations. These student organizations are great way to meet others like you, and they often have lots of resources available for fellow students that are trying to work through their identity. That said, I don’t think you should feel like you have to wait until you go off to college to seek counseling. There are often local organizations that offer free advising – no strings attached – to those who are seeking help. For example, PFLAG. I’ve had a few interactions with people involved in my local PFLAG chapter and have nothing but great things to say. There are almost two dozen PFLAG chapters in Florida alone. It might be worth checking one out.
