Lowering Expectations

I would recommend not having too many preferred character traits. You can still have standards (don't just settle for ANYTHING) but don't be too picky.

If someone you are dating has traits you would deem undesirable, try to ignore them by focusing on what you like about them. For example if you prefer people with blonde hair and brown eyes, and you are with someone who has brown hair and brown eyes; only focus on the brown eyes. You can choose to ignore things consciously and this will lower your expectations.

But don't give up on yourself either. Still get with someone who you are attracted to emotionally and physically because if you just don't like the person, the relationship won't go anywhere.

 

I disagree, I think it's about not focusing on superficial things like height or eye colour and instead focusing on what kind of person they are.

 

Yes. What matters the most is not what's on the surface but what goes inside our minds.

'That said lowering standards on some things might be a good idea, but never be on a relationship / friendship you don't like. Saying no is always possible, as is saying yes.


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I meet someone I was not really physically attracted to and I started to like them a lot. I fell in love with them and all of their imperfections went away. A beautiful mind is so much more attractive. Someone you connect with is worth more than a perfect body.

That being said, if you can find a few nice attractive features on someone focus on that. Just try and keep an open mind and give yourself more options. I think it is more psychological than anything. Having good hygiene is attractive, good breath nice teeth, well groomed.

Don't know if that will help you any but good luck!