So there's this cute TA in my class that I think is cute and I'm thinking about asking him out but I barely know him. Dates are to get to know people and honestly right now my mentality is f*ck it I'll do it, but at the same time I will be embarrassed that it'll get awkward and I don't know if he's straight, gay, or bi. What are your opinions? Really right now I just want to ask him out, like f*ck embarrassment. If yes I should do it, what should I [say/do]?
Just say something, like "Hey, you're really cute! Can I take you out on a date?" That's all there is to it. You're freaking yourself out about it I'm sure. Worst case scenario he's straight. Chances are even a straight guy who's against lgbt rights would think you had balls for asking like that. Also, know that it'll be the worst feeling knowing you missed out, didn't quite have the courage. I believe in you.
Does your school have a policy on TAs being involved with students? Personally (putting aside the likely age issue that would torpedo things for me), if I were a TA for a class, I'd have a very clear boundary that I don't consider going out with a student in that class. If the school doesn't have such a policy, I'd think that to be a shortcoming, as there are too many opportunities for confused boundaries.
He's an undergrad and I have Facebook stalked him but there were no indication of him being gay, although he supports gay rights
Even if he was gay and interested in you, don't you think he might think you are trying to get a better grade by getting involved into him? If he is any smart he will decline your proposal as too many things could go wrong. Just think how it will look like to other students if your affair becomes public.
That is a valid point and although my intentions is not trying to get a better grade, he will probably assume it.
