Gay Bars

There should be nothing to be afraid of at a gay bar. Some are a bit of a scene, others are not. You will find all types. Whenever I travel, I always stop in the local gay bar. It's a great way to meet people locally and get to know a bit about the area.

You should not feel any pressure to talk with anyone, nor participate in the scene. Simply go, relax, have a drink (club soda for me thanks) and people watch if that's all your into.

If there is a local place, you might find you get to know the regulars and then become more comfortable going.

 

I've been to one gay bar, for like 30 minutes with my boyfriend and his friend. Pretty basic, friendly people...etc nothing special.

I'm pretty sure apps have more of the population, and honestly I feel like a lot of people go to gay bars just to fuck someone, not to meet someone for a relationship.

 

Gay bars come in all shapes and sizes and types. It varies with where you are and the local culture of the population (LGBT and straight) where you live.

There can be giant dance clubs, which may be more of the 'scene' you are talking about. There can also be places that are practically indistinguishable from a straight dive bar, including pool tables, dart board,s and teams that play both, except for the pictures on the walls. And everything in between.

Generally bars are most busy on Friday and Saturday night, although that's not a 100% certain. Some run specials or special events from drag shows or strippers to charity auctions for some cause or other. You can probably find out what they may have going on by seeing if they have a website. Don't pay too much attention to the boilerplate naked guy photos on the website - they don't tell you anything about what the bar itself is like, mostly. Although some bars may post photos of events they've done in the past, which may give you a better idea.

If you go and someone flirts or hits on you, don't be offended just because someone has bothered to find you attractive. If its not serious, flirt back or say something nice but non-committal like 'thank you'. If you aren't interested, turn them down politely (I'm just checking the place out tonight) and move on. Being polite costs almost nothing and can pay dividends later. There can be a sort of community in the bars and if you make a good impression they can either point you to someone you might like or warn you off of someone you might be best avoiding. Although realize gay men love gossip and keep that in mind when judging things.

Note that its not uncommon for people to flirt or engage in fairly direct 'locker room talk' without it actually meaning anything other than just talk. Don't get freaked out by it, if you're not used to that.

Hope this helps,

Todd

 

Gay bars are good you got the girls in the club the. You got the guys some are straight some are gay like us but the atmosphere is usually nice and friendly and hot guys hitting on you is a plus

 

If there are LGBT social organization in your area, try getting involved in those. I participate in an LGBT athletic league by me which meets several times a week (I only go once a week).
Consider Art groups, writing groups, even walking groups if your area has them.

Consider volunteering or getting involved with an LGBT charity. I participate in several organizations and interact regularly with people through them.

Just go about life as you normally do. I am frequently amazed at how often I meet others just on a daily basis.

 

You don't say where you are in Wisconsin, or how old you are, but a bit of googling turned up the following:

Milwaukee Gay Sports Network

which seems to be something of a clearinghouse for various LGBT sports groups in Milwaukee. And another one HERE.

Then there's this directory for Madison.

Here's a larger directory that touches on a lot of organizations, some of which may be of interest to you or point you in the direction of other groups you might be interested in.

Here is a more general directory of groups and organizations in Wisconsin, not all relating to sports.

And here's another that is apparently related to an LGBT center that might be able to point you at various things or resources and groups in your area.

There may be others, but this should get you started.

Hope this helps,

Todd

 

I don't go to any bar at all. Just because the thought of having to put on clothes, carrying your passport, withdrawing some cash, getting in the bus, standing in the waiting lines exhausts me.
Yay for stay at home.

 

I've lived in the Phoenix, Arizona area for several years, and there were plenty of gay bars to choose from, for all kinds of tastes. Personally, I preferred a 'regular' gay bar where I could have some tasty cocktails and watch some cute guys

 

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