Queer Decoding: What Does Interest Look Like?

I think eye contact is very telling, especially if a gaze is held. You can send signals yourself, like eye contact, smiling, getting closer, and see how she responds. I also think enthusiastic responsiveness is a sign, that she wants to pend time with you, and reaches out. Just ask her to dinner, and see where it goes, and if you get close and she reciprocates, you have your answer. If not, back off and it's friendship territory.

 

For me, it's usually eye contact. There are a lot of people who I've exchanged eye contact with who I later found out were gay. Even with things like taking the bus or walking around campus, it's people who give the look who I know are totes gay, haha. So that's how I personally know someone is interested. I'm usually right about their orientation if we talk later, too, or if I look them up and see the "Interested in Men" on their Facebook.

I had a customer at work who I made pleasant conversation with, joked around with, and who smiled a lot at me. In the middle of our conversation, after a small silence, out of nowhere, he asks me out for drinks. I was really SHOCKED. For me, eye contact and smiling and funny jokes/stories are just normal, so I wasn't expecting that.

I guess the lesson from that story is that someone has to make the first move, take the leap.

I don't think some people are just intense eye contact people. If people look at you, it's usually for good reason.