Hey everyone, so lately ive been getting real lonely and find myself going on hookup sites more frequently and just browsing around. I had a guy message me who i find really handsome, totally my type, in terms of appearance (havent really talked with him much so i dont know if we click emotionally). I feel pretty self conscious about my body but i really want to move forward with him. Im sure hes looking to just hookup at the very least but i think i just need advice as for the unwritten rules of hookups i guess. Only have done a hookup like this with one other guy and it was disastrous. I would like to be able to have a good hookup up and hopefully it will lead to something more
To me it sounds like you don't want a hook up but a boy friend. Unless it is truly just the sex you want I would advise against hook ups. Most people in the apps are just after sex and since your previous attempt was a disaster I would not recommend you try again unless you are really sure you just want sex.
Yeah, i definitely want a boyfriend... thats for sure. However, i would like to just hook up here and there and to get out there so my sex life isnt pathetic leading into me dating a guy i like. ---------- Post added 28th Mar 2016 at 04:55 PM ---------- Just an update, ive exchanged emails with the guy i was talking to and i am currently finding out what hes looking for and figuring out where hes coming from in all this. He said he was looking for potential long term relationships in his profile... ill let you guys know how its going between our emails
A hook up is a hook up and you shouldn't expect anything more from it - that's the golden rule. Define your real intentions before you use a hook up site and don't meet someone if you want or expect a relationship to come out of it because you will most likely be disappointed. Even if you meet a second, third or fourth time you shouldn't get carried away with thinking that it's becoming more serious. If the profile of the other person mentions an interest in a long term relationship, you shouldn't assume that it will happen as a result of your meeting via a hook up site. Most people join these sites for casual meet ups, not serious dates. Keep your feet firmly on the ground and play safe.
