As someone who is recently coming to terms with the fact that I am probably gay and learning to accept myself, there is a part of me that is excited to finally explore that possibility and date. I smile at the possibility that I can meet some guy and become close. But that shatters the second I think about not having a traditional family (wife, my own kids). I have always thought and wished for that but now that I am strongly considering coming out, I realize that that dream will no longer happen. It absolutely crushes me to the core. I know adoption is an option and so many people do it and are happy. I think I just visualize myself as having my own kid and always pictured myself with a beautiful girl until recently. I can't help but feel cheated. Why was I made this way... wanting BOTH? I mean no disrespect and don't mean to sound selfish. It just irks me sometimes when I see straight couple with kids because that's ideally what I want but don't think I will be able to have unless I "force" it which.. being untrue to myself (or a beautiful innocent woman) is no longer an option at this point. I'm just curious if any one has experienced these feelings/advice on how to cope. Sometimes it feels like a lose-lose.
A surrogate is always an option if you really want to have a kid that's biologically yours. There's some fees behind the process but its always an option