How do you know your gay? I know I am because I find men attractive I want to be with a man I want to have sex with a man. Men make me feel normal and it's who I am I'm also sick of hearing it's a phase everywhere I'm worried about this because hen I hear this I think omg is what I'm going through a phase I hope not but I'm scared help. Thoughts I get now thoughts are just thoughts and don't mean a thing but linking to the phase I've had sexuallish thoughts about women I don't like it it's not me I don't find women attractive and I don't see myself with one help please.