Body insecurities

How would you feel if I told you skinny guys are some people's type, and I think it is the best look? :love:

 

I think your perception that most gay guys have great bodies is flawed. Yes, the media perpetuates certain body images that may give the impression that the gay community is full of Adonis type attributes. But in reality, the media is massively distorted to what is reality. Videos and magazines (and yes even apps) sell because of the images they reflect, nothing more.

At the same time, guys are attracted to so many different body types. Built guys like thin guys, thin guys like stocky guys, stocky guys like toned guys, and of course guys often like similar bodies as themselves. Don't think the world is so limited.

Finally, your insecurities stem from your self esteem. If you have high self esteem, you will have a high self image; with a low self esteem, often there is a low self image. Self esteem is where it all starts.

There are ways you can improve your self esteem. And in reality, it's up to you to improve it. No one can do that for you.

Improved self esteem is a result of confidence which you can build through the achievement of personal accomplishments. There is no rule on what the personal accomplishments should be. For some, it's doing well on an assignment, reaching a small goal at work, winning some sort of competition, helping a stranger cross the street. For others, it might be setting a goal on losing weight, or increasing muscle mass and achieving those goals. And for others, it's getting a promotion, or a raise. Personal accomplishments can be small or large.

While it's great that your focusing on getting your body in good shape, try and focus on getting your mind in good shape! Start by setting small objectives for yourself - and achieve them. As you achieve the small ones, focus on bigger ones. So on and so on.

As you fulfill your goals, your confidence will build. As a result, your self esteem should improve and so will your self image.

And ignore the media stereotypes!

 

Broken, if that's you in the picture, you are by no means "ugly". You're a very handsome guy there.

You may be suffering from something called body dysmorphic disorder and this is something you can work on with a therapist.

 

If your profile pic is you, youre kinda cute.
I'm thin and I really like the skinny geeky guys.
I don't want a hook-up, I want something emotional WITH lots of sex.

I'm 100% sure you can find someone for for you.
If both you and I exist, there must be more like us.

 

im gonna chime in too even tho im a chick and les....im gonna say dude u look cute! if i was a gay guy id hit u up, so shut up:icon_wink..no but seriously tho heres how i feel and maybe itll help maybe it wont...ive always been really insecure about my body, ive only had sex with one girl just baraly last year..and we were both shit faced drunk it was dark and neither got off..sadly i fell madly in love with her and went thru it very very hard cuz come to find she never gave a fuk about me and i took it out on myself thinking if only i was hotter she might have been mine..and i too wanted that deep emotional connection with her and after she broke my heart i felt like fuk this world, true love doesnt exist here and felt like i didnt want to live anymore....

..(oh and virginity in my perspective, both full on naked and both orgasm..im still a virgin) cuz ive always been self concious theyre gonna think my body is gross...im 26 now so u can imagine what thats done for my confidence...ive fooled around but mostly clothed and ive had sex with guys full on naked but dudes im more comfortable around...(this was before i realized i was les) ...that said, girls that ive had major major crushes on that also liked me i was too self concious to do anything about it...so ive been like alone my whole life really....and about myself, i feel im ugly...being a girl and every girl around u dresses nice and girly and wears make up and whatnot becuz stereotypically thats what girls are supposed to look like and im totally like thrashed out lol like i mean im clean and stuff i just dont wear make up or dress nice and it makes me feel like every girl is lookin at me like im a scumbag even tho it aint like that but i feel like it is....i mean dudes have it hella easy they just have their clothes and maybe bodies...which most are thin as it is cuz ur metabolism is awesome....thats it...chicks its like clothes makeup hair shave wax pluck eyebrows accessories and bodies not to mention the way they carry themselves....its hella shit....it fukin sux....and it seems if ur different like i am, people look down upon u...i like wearing baggy clothes sum days cuz i skate but i feel like everyone looks at me like im the ugliest fukin bitch in the world and i kno its all in my head but i still feel it....just recently ive been focusing less on the fact that i feel worthless and ugly just becuz im single which makes me think that that must be why and concentrating more on what i enjoi doing...that and bettering myself...hobbies, skool, working out, being healthy (three days sober today) goals.... and im hoping that once i truely believe that im worth more than what my body and teeth and all my insecurities may look like that ill meet the right girl....think about it, ur probly an awesome guy anybody whos "looking" and only seeing what ur feeling insecure about (or ur body, which doesnt make sense to me cuz if thats u in the icon u look pretty good..when i liked dudes, i thought the ones with ur body type were hella hott..not to mention if their insecurities were noticable i thought that was even hotter) but anyway if they are only judging u on ur body then theyre just lookin to use ur body and u deserve better...everybody deserves better than that, even me (*hug*)...so dont tripp chocolate chip, take care of urself and fuk what others may think

 

(!)no problem at all, glad it helped and cheers to u too bro!