My friend has annoyed me and I just wanna rant a bit.

I just want to vent here.

I am out as gay. My friends know I'm gay and if I'm asked I don't deny it. Now, today my best friend - the first person I came out to - did some crap that just...idk, hurt me? In a way?

My friend (let's call her H) told me that a girl had called her cousin a lesbian, trying to insult her, and that it really upset her cousin. This alone sort of irked me and I tried explaining to her that being called a lesbian, or gay, or anything like that, should not be offensive to anyone and that it's homophobic and hurtful to those who actually do identify as any of those things because it gives those words a negative connotation. But even after I explained this to her, H just said that the girl had been mean to her cousin and that her cousin was upset because of it so she - H, that is - was going to be passive aggressive towards the girl. As if one cue, the girl walked past us and H said, just loud enough for the girl to hear, "Calling people lesbians is really rude and mean". Like, I was standing right there!

She knows that this sort of thing gets to me, and I am usually very thick-skinned. It isn't the first time she's said stuff like that either. She makes homophobic and transphobic comments and sometimes I think she doesn't even realise that they're offensive. But she does makes transphobic jokes now and then and I always call her out on her crap but nope, she still does it. She knows I feel strongly about these things but when I say that it's offensive she just dismisses it or makes it seem like I'm just over reacting. It's got to the point where I don't feel comfortable discussing anything even remotely related to anything LGBT in case it sparks an argument.

I'm just really tired of her dismissing my feelings when I point out that it hurts me (and anyone else who's queer that might overhear her). I'm glad I got that out. It was on my mind and I just wanted to rant a bit. Thanks for reading.

 

That's a good point, I guess. I don't quite get why people use occupations as insults either tbh. Her cousin was upset specifically because she was called a lesbian. I've seen friends jokingly call her idiot and stuff like that and she'd just insult them right back without batting an eye. And yes, I do realise that the girl intended for it to be an insult. That's something I'm not fond of - people's sexualities being used as insults. Just fuels the homophobic views that so many people have round here.

Since yesterday though I've calmed down about it a bit and it hasn't come up again.

 

Okay yeah, it's not that big of a deal. I know I have to get used to it, and I hear stuff like this daily from other people in school and stuff and I'm not too bothered by it. I probably am being a bit overly PC but I've been stressed with exams and shit and this was the straw that broke the camel's back that particular day, y'know? I've since gotten over it and reading you guys' replies has made me realise that it's not a big deal. Like I stated in the first post, I just wanted to vent a bit that day.