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It's still normal if it's a little awkward, right?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Shadstack, May 9, 2016.

  1. Shadstack

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    I still feel a little awkward talking about my sexuality with my friend, even though he's gay too.

    He asked me today while we were talking and having lunch in school:
    "What do you find attractive in guys?"
    "Personality-wise or physical?"
    "Both."
    Then I got kind of flustered, because I didn't then and still don't feel 100% comfortable talking about it, really. So I just said:
    "You tell me first!"
    He answered and it never got back to me, luckily. I narrowly avoided the question.

    The thing is though, I don't know why I feel so awkward talking about it. It's not me that's just like this, right?
     
  2. Umme

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    Eh, I get awkward talking about girls and boys.

    I'm probably really wierd, but you're not the only one.
     
  3. Connorcode

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    When you're in school it can be awkward. I used to hang out with a really open and diverse group, with Ls, Gs and Bs, but it was too embarrassing personally to talk about my sexuality with loads of people around.
     
  4. SillyGoose

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    I personally find situations like this extremely awkward but that's just me..
     
  5. Kiran

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    It's just a normal topic. I think you might be a bit too conscious of the surroundings, thinking people will listen to what you are talking about and/or view you badly because of that.

    Don't giving a damn about other people do take a time, and you're still young so I understand why you might be so anxious. You can always tell your friend you don't want to discuss such things in a public space.
     
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    It's pretty understandable. When you're in the closet you try to outwardly appear straight, so the thought of openly discussing anything "gay" can seem kind of jarring. This is simply what I personally find myself, so whether or not this applies to you is up to you to decide. Honestly, it's just a case of getting used to it and being more confident about it. Hope this helps!
     
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    I get so awkward too!

    But I'm just social awkward, so idk if I'm helping you. I personally just don't have a type. I just like the way people make me feel. It's hard to narrow it down to a few traits. It's totally normal to feel awkward :slight_smile: