I'm 19 years old and have a particular sexual fantasy which I won't get into. I met this guy on an app who shares the exact same interest as me and he is like the perfect match. He wanted to hook up with me but I chickened out since I'm still not completely comfortable with the idea of casual sex. Now I'm having second thought because if I do meet someone later on in life and spend the rest of my life with the person, he probably won't have this particular interest and I might never get to experience it. Part of me don't want to let this chance go to waste and just say yolo, and the other part of me is telling myself to not put out and take care of myself. Also the fetish is really dirty so I'm a little ashamed of it.Am I gonna regret my decision later in life if I miss this chance? What are your guys thoughts?
Knowing the fetish would actually help,but you can go for it.what kind of fetish would stigmatize your entire life?
What the fantasy or fetish is would help understand. I have a fantasy myself but understand not wanting to share.
Don't make decisions based on the fear of missing out in the future. Your fetish, while you might think its gross, its not as rare as you might think. The kink community out there is huge and I have seen people with the most niche fetish find people to connect with and share the experience. You have another option. Wait until you feel more comfortable about hooking up and try to find another person who shares your fetish. This isn't your only opportunity, trust me.
since u guys asked about the fetish, here's part of the text he sent me. The guy:I want you having my babies sweetheart. Your gaping pussy dripping Daddies sweet cum always. So basically being a "pussy boi" to a daddy, he's 33 tho cuz I'm not into old dudes. But ya since I'm such a good student and a good kid at home, I've always been too embarrassed to express this opposite side of me as if it's too out of my character And this means I prob won't get to do this role play ish thing with my future boyfriend, since there needs to be an age gap, and I'm not gonna stay a twink forever
If your fantasy is in regard to being submissive or "used" by an older gentlemen, then that isn't very uncommon in the gay community. Going by the text, I'm not sure if it is just dirty talk or something he/you actually wants to happen, but I would be very hesitant(and strongly advise against) having sex without a condom with a stranger. No matter what a person says about their STD/HIV status, if they are willing to go without a condom with you then that is most likely not the first time.
Does it have to be casual sex? You could start out slower than that. But yeah, the more I learn about the fetish community, the broader and more relaxed I see it is. Your fetish probably doesn't appall that much. EDIT: You recognize the need for an age gap, but that's what roleplaying is for! Age might get in the way eventually, but it's nothing a little imagination can't fix.
I think having casual sex as long as it's done with a condom will be fine. Why can't there be an age gap with a future boyfriend? Youth is reasonably long lasting. If your still a student you still have a few more years of twinkhood.
Use a condom, and maybe talk to the guy a little more first so that you're sure he's trustworthy? I don't see any moral issue with your fetish, it sounds just like quite light submissiveness to me (that made me sound lewd but whatever, lol).
When I was 18 I had a similar fantasy and considered hooking up with a group of people from CL. Looking back I am very glad I left it as a fantasy. Food for thought.
