I give off gay vibes unconsciously and I want it to stop

If you have always acted the same way, then acting "unambiguously straight" obviously it isn't the norm for you. I think you are putting way too much thought into this. Just act normal and be yourself. Who cares.... It doesn't seem to have hindered you too much up to this point in your life so why change now.

 

I've noticed through recordings that I have a "sassy" tone to my voice, although that's not what I intentionally give off. Just thinking about it makes me a bit self concious, but then I remind myself that EVERYONE has a different voice. For example, a straight male may have a more feminine personality and voice, but it doesn't disregard the fact that he's straight.

If you talked to me, you'd think I was straight, yet I'm not. When I came out to some friends, they raised a brow, and others asked me if I was serious (they found it hard to believe). Recently, my coworker's asked "who's the girl" when my bf gave me a hickie, and instead of telling them I'm gay, I told them it's for me to know and for them to find out haha.

People that give off the gay vibe are honestly the funniest people that I've encountered. Maybe it's because they really don't give two shits about what people think (which is awesome, that's something I'm still improving on). They're people I love being around because that's who they are and they just focus on being happy.

At least you won't have to tell anyone or come out for that matter, you might find someone who's just like you as well. Just give it some time for yourself to be comfortable in your own skin. Remind yourself that acting differently isn't healthy for you either. Surround yourself with positive people, and friends that support you.

 

This doesn't describe how it has hindered you. You are just saying people think you might be gay. There is nothing inherently wrong with that. It doesn't seem like others are bullying you or treating you differently then they would otherwise. Aside form you something in your head saying there is a "normal" and "gay" way to act, this just seems average. I still think you are overthinking this.

The entire time growing up I wished I came off more gay so that people wouldn't be so shocked when I came out and that more guys would be willing to take a chance and make a move or something. Maybe its not as bad of a thing as you think.

 

You can't.

 

Nailed it! That's the way you are, and honestly, what's the problem?

 

OP, I think you have a right to project whatever image you wish to project to the world at large. But I do think it is important to consider exactly WHY you are trying to project such an image. Why do you not want to be perceived as outwardly gay? These are questions you have to figure out for your own peace of mind.

 

Just be yourself. There's nothing wrong with you. You're awesome just the way you are!

 

who cares dude just be you, stop judging yourself and just be...i notice that in myself i feel i sortof have a masculine quality to me, im such a dude!, and this sortof makes me feel selfconcious and feel so strange, but lately ive just been like fuk it, i am who i am...