OK Here goes! A little info first. I have never had any experience with anyone. I am out to my Big Bro, Mom, Dad and Step Mom. I know 100% I am gay Now here comes my problem. I like guys older than me. My friends are just not my desires. I used to think so but after seeing My Big Bro's friends and some guys on the net I know that I like older guys. And I also know that living where I do there is little chance that I will find someone who isn't scared of my age or my family if it ever came out that they had done anything with me. My friends and my Big Bro and his friends all talk about how they have done stuff with girls. How do I find someone who is older who might be interested? My Gaydar is off-line. It does not work at all. I see a lot of hot guys, some older than my Big Bro even and my mind starts to wonder what it would be like. And more than once I have been caught staring at them. Most smile. Some even wink. How long do I have to wait?
If your into younger guys at 13 your into 8 year olds so yeh.. It's fine to feel attracted to fully developed people when your a teen..
Hi Casey, First, I'll admit when I was around your age, I was turned on by the more sexually mature, 18 year old or so guys too. But that was a long time ago, and also I never acted on that. Today, I would ask you to be kind and not try to act on this. Perhaps for your own well being, but if not that then certainly for the well being of the older people. First of all, in my state it is a felony for anyone to engage in any kind of sex, or even to communicate about wanting to engage any kind of sex, with a 13 year-old. This would even apply to someone as young as 15 years old, in your case, but certainly someone who was 17 or 18. Society takes very negative judgments on people who engage in sexual activity with younger people. In addition, across the U.S. today, the most common age of people added to the sex offender registry is only 14 years old. That's right, 14 years old. Some of these individuals played "doctor" with 10 year-old siblings, and some sent nude photos of themselves to their friends. It doesn't take much searching to find these cases. You may still get in trouble for playing around with someone your age, but it most likely won't result in criminal prosecution unless it involves the transmission of prohibited content over a smart phone. Children have been prosecuted for "production of child pornography," for sending images of themselves to their friends. Some of these people have been ordered to register, for life, as a sex offender even though they are basically children. If you do this with someone older, it could have life-changing consequences for both of you. I don't know how to help you beyond what I've written. You have perfectly valid feelings. However, the adults in the United States have gone bat shit crazy about teenage sexuality, and they have legislated us into a culture of relentless persecution in many of these cases. Please take some time and read about the rules and consequences, before you act on any of these impulses.
I would never intentionally get anyone in trouble. A I know better than to sext message anyone. The things you talk about seem to be worse case scenes. I know that there are guys my age some where doing stuff with older guys daily and though dangerous, are not getting caught. But I also know you are right about the dangers for others. It just seems very unfair! At least to me!
Well, I'm 15 and dating a 17 year old. I'm not sure how much older these guys are, but I suggest you go for it as long as it's only a separation of up to about two or three years. It's hard finding gay guys in general let alone a certain age group of them. But don't worry, you will meet someone someday. You're young, you don't need to rush things. Good luck!
You're right Casey, and I apologize. It is unfair. My generation had the motto, "sex, drugs, and rock and roll," and then we went on to become legislators and send more people to prisons for these things than at any time in our history.
