A Rant ( warning: contains curse words )

Hey Simple Thoughts,

Roommates suck. I never liked it when I was in my early 20s. I'll be divorced soon, and I'll do whatever it takes to not have roommates.

You asked: When did I become everyone's fucking mom? That's a great question, but I'll answer it with your own tagline:

"A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes" - Mahatma Gandhi.

 

Why is he your boyfriend if he's not putting any effort into the relationship? He should put some effort into the relationship and if he still doesn't, that shows that he doesn't care.
Here have a hug (*hug*)

 

When you allowed it to happen.

They aren't working or taking care of anything because you let them. Why would they work when they know that you will take care of them either way? Why would they put in effort when they don't have to?

Its shitty, but you won't be able to change them. They are okay with using you and abusing, and you are letting them.

Might be tough to hear, but its time to think about getting new people in your life.

 

I have to say as I read this my go-to thought was not why are these guys so unreasonable. It was why does he put up with this. Yeah roommates suck--the one upside of roommates is that they pay part of the rent. From what you say they aren't even doing that. Sounds like they have a pretty sweet deal. I understand what they get out of it. What do you get out of it?

 

I don't really see how this is the case. From what you are saying you're already supporting yourself just fine. It would probably actually be easier if you weren't supporting two other people too. On the other hand if you enjoy their company enough to support them well that's a reasonable decision.

 

No problem ^-^

 

Ugh! I feel your pain!

I stayed with the guy I dated in 2010, for 5 months. In that 5 months, he got fired from 2 jobs, and just lazed about at home all fucking day, some days I'd get home from work and he'd still be in his pajamas! I used to get home, clean the kitchen then start dinner, and he'd be playing games, chatting to bimbo's and scratching his balls. I got tired of doing everything, so I stopped doing it. The dishes once stood in the sink for 2 straight days, and he didn't even try to wash them. No, the computer, his phone and the tv was more important. I paid the rent, I bought the groceries, I did the cleaning, and 90% of the time, I did the cooking too! When I got home from work one day, he wasn't there. We stayed on the same property as his grandparents. I knocked on their door and they said he'd left with a girl. That was the last straw! I called his phone and he said he'd be home soon. (He was probably recovering from fucking her brains out but anyway...) Well, he got home and invited her in for coffee (Which I made, by the way). That following Sunday, I went through his phone whilst he was having a shower. And what I found was shocking to say the least. I knocked on the bathroom door and said I want to speak with him when he's done. Well, I gave him an earful, took my dog and went back to my parents. I went to fetch my stuff later that day, and that was it.

What I'm trying to say is, if you allow them to walk all over you, they will keep doing it. It's time to put your big boy pants on and tell them that either they get their shit together, find jobs and start helping out around the house, or they must find someone else to mother them. There's no sugar-coating things when someone is so used to doing fuck-all. I know it's hard, but don't you think you deserve better? Tell them to shape up or ship out. It's that simple. You are supporting yourself and TWO other people. So if you kick them out, then you will have just yourself to worry about with regards to taking care of basic needs, etc. Don't allow them to run your life this way. You deserve better dude (*hug*)