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Still confused after coming out to best friend

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Anthony1234, Sep 20, 2016.

  1. Anthony1234

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    Dear all,

    My name is Anthony and I am 22 years old. This is my first post on this forum as I feel really confused about my sexual orientation, even after coming out to my best friend.

    When I was seventeen the idea suddenly came up that I was gay. The reason for this was that when I dated a girl, I would never feel comfortable while getting intimate.
    I found this very weird, because I did have a girlfriend when I was fifteen for about 8 months and I never experienced this kind of uncertainty while we did have sex. (we had sex a lot)
    After we broke up and I got older I dated several girls, but I couldn't get turned on by them. I could not do the job... This made me feel very insecure but I kept convincing myself that it was normal to be uncertain.

    Now, about four years later I still never have had sex with a girl and finished the job.. I supressed my feeling the past years. I think I also like guys, but I never fell in love with a guy and I don't even watch gayporn.

    Last months I felt very stressed because I was suppressing the feeling that I also like men. Because I had to get some air I told my best friend sunday that I'm bisexual. His reaction was good and understanding. I expected to feel very relieved after I told him but I actually feel less relieved than expected.

    In fact, I feel confused again. If I think about me being gay I just feel like nothing has happened. I'm also not sure what my next step will be. Is telling more friends an option? Even when I don't feel sure if I'm bi or gay or whatever??

    I would really appreciate if you guys could share your opinion with me. Also, I apologize for when my English is bad. I don't live in the USA but I found this site helpfull.

    Thanks!