I feel ashamed of having feelings for someone. How do I stop these? This person is another woman who probably has no idea how I feel for her
You're probably feeling shame because you're not used to having such feelings, and probably also because society has taught us that having feelings towards the same sex is wrong. You need to accept that it's nothing wrong with questioning, or being anything other than straight, it's in our nature to be like that. You could always try to interact with her more, try to become her friend and get to know her. But in the end if she doesn't feel the same, you need to accept that it's just how it is and you can't change it, and let her go.
first, nothing wrong with having feelings for someone of the same gender. Yes, a lot of us were raised to think it was wrong, dirty, sinful etc... but, it isn't. We are born as we are, our orientation and, sometimes gender might not manifest until later in life and, both can be fluid, can change over time. What's making you ashamed of your feelings?
I think it it's because I'm afraid she will find out. Also I think I'm afraid of my own feelings. Something about this person is making me think maybe I am gay. This persons coworkers were joking this person behind the curtain. It's like this person has switch in their head they can flip and they become a very different person. Well I have that switch too. Until then I used to think I was the only person with this. I get this person like me struggles with depression. My mom would disprove. She accused an old friend mine of converting me and teaching me to be gay. We were very close and people knew we we were into each other even though denied it. I was deeply hurt by this friend. The person you like now reminds me of her. I am working on moving on because I know we will never be. It just won't happen, but what is working for me is allowing myself to have those feelings and accept them. The bright side of this has inspired a story. I think of writing about and changing up the plot a little bit but keeping the young woman and older woman forming a relationship. I have express myself through writing. The characters in my book live in New York and meet through an internship. This is why I write so I can express myself because acting on theses feelings would be frowned upon. So I explore myself through writing and my characters. This how I ended up with five books on Amazon.
Not 100% sure if she is straight. Her Fb page says interested in men. Assuming she is straight don't make things difficult between us. Also she is republican.
I think maybe th eworst part is worrying how she will react if she finds out? Its hard - people fall for people. Like sometimes people get feelings for married people. Or people they work with in jobs where you can't date eachother.... I think processing the feelings is a great idea. Hopefully also you can meet someone else? All the fish in the sea, and all that Take care!
Yes I'm worried about she'll react. But only way she's find out if she read my mind:roflmao: so I have figured one the three will happen 1. She will like me back(least likely) 2. She will be flattered and tell me no(possible) 3. She will be floored and it won't end well Where I live it's really hard to meet people. So that's why I want to internship so while I'm there i can explore my sexuality and meet people. About went to an LBGTQs meeting, but talked myself out of it because it's 3.5hrs away and I was worried I would run into her because she works in a nearby city ---------- Post added 2nd Nov 2016 at 11:45 PM ---------- Yes I'm worried about she'll react. But only way she's find out if she read my mind:roflmao: so I have figured one the three will happen 1. She will tell me like me back(least likely) 2. She will be flattered and tell me no(possible) 3. She will be floored and it won't end well
Floored wasn't the right word thought it meant angry. The wost case scenario is that she if offended beyond belief
Maybe you should try and have another go at attending the LGBT group? Have you contacted them at all? Sometimes the organisers will correspond by email first so they can expect you and you can feel a little more comfortable.
