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My therapist just abandoned me, what do I do?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by goodbeat94, Dec 5, 2016.

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  1. goodbeat94

    goodbeat94
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    I just got a letter in the mail saying that because I had cancelled a few times on them, that I am no longer able to see my therapist. I am absolutely crushed and I just absolutely hate myself so much right now.

    The reason I kept cancelling was simply because I couldn't afford to go for the week. My co-pay was $50 for each session. Last week, for example, I had to pay an application fee of $55 to apply for a university. In addition to that, I had my car insurance taken out at the same time. THEN my car payment came out a few days later.

    I couldn't help it and I was seriously looking forward to coming but I simply couldn't make it. Now I keep beating myself up, maybe trying to get my mom to help me pay for the co-pay and I'd pay her back or something. But it's too late now.

    I'm going to call them tomorrow and see if maybe they can still see me if I just persuade and beg them enough that this is going to kill me, not literally, but my mental standpoint might be pretty bad. In fact, I feel really down right now. Because I really liked my therapist, he was supportive of me being gay and everything. And he was just great at giving advice.

    I don't understand. They said that I could seek another therapist and gave me paperwork to send over my information to another specialist. But frankly, I don't want to. I just wanna continuing seeing my therapist.

    I don't know. Somebody please just encourage me or make me feel better. Give me advice. Something.
     
    #1 goodbeat94, Dec 5, 2016
  2. Really

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    A couple of thoughts.

    Could you afford to go less frequently but regularly? Maybe you could make a deal to pay for a few sessions at once? (Could your mom help with that and then you'd pay her back?)

    What about your university? Do they have counselling services for students? That should be considerably less money or possibly free.

    My 2 cents.
     
    #2 Really, Dec 5, 2016
  3. Guff

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    That sucks, I'm sorry. I'm also kinda losing a therapist. Our insurance won't cover seeing him as of 2017 so I'll no longer get to see him despite the fact I think he's amazing. I'm looking for ways to maybe still see him, but his sessions are hundreds of dollars an hour... (he's also specialized in other things)

    I totally feel you as far as not wanting to change goes, but I will say I've spoken with a TON of different mental health professionals. Like seriously over 25 LOL And I'd honestly say only 2 were terrible and 3 others were bad. So only 5 out of the near 30 I've seen have been bad, so if you do see a new therapist he/she might be just as good. In my opinion, most therapist are actually pretty good at their job.
    And if money is an issue for you, counseling and group therapy are usually cheaper and just as effective.
    I've been to numerous therapy group sessions, I got to say they are productive. I'm currently seeing a counselor who's 1 of my favorite people I've spoken too. So maybe 1 of those cheaper options are a possibility? Whatever you end up doing I wish you the best.
     
    #3 Guff, Dec 5, 2016
  4. TraceElement

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    Is there an LGBT center in your area? They may (probably though) have a list of lgbt friendly therapists.
     
    #4 TraceElement, Dec 5, 2016
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