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Is it normal?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by galaxythief, Dec 27, 2016.

  1. galaxythief

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    I didn't really know where to put this but here it is. The last couple threads I've posted asking for help I got nothing so it would be helpful if someone would respond.

    I'm 14 and I'm in 8th grade. I know a whole bunch of guys at my school masturbate and watch porn but I don't think many girls do. I don't watch porn or masturbate but I was wondering if it's normal for me to fantasize (not sexual, just hugs, kisses, cuddling) even though I haven't been in a steady relationship where I've gotten the chance to do any of those. I haven't had my first kiss. I have this longing to be in a relationship where I can kiss and cuddle but the last two times I tried I ended up getting really hurt.

    I just go online and look at women in bikinis or something and that's how I know for a fact that I'm gay :lol: but I don't masturbate or anything. Is it still normal for me to fantasize?
     
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    Completely normal. You have nothing to worry about.
     
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    I think It's normal for girls to masturbate, It's just that most won't admit it because of the taboo. There's nothing wrong with you if you don't want to though.
     
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    I think it's normal to have sexual fantasies. I think it's something most people do.
     
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    Your perfectly normal. Your fantasies are yours and self pleasure is yours. You don't need to justify anything to anyone!!!
     
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    Perfectly normal. Just don't get to the point where the fantasy keeps you from socializing irl.
     
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    Time solves everything :slight_smile:
     
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    Years ago, it was said (probably from questionable data) that boys were far more likely to masturbate than girls (one book said 95% of all boys 16 or older masturbate while only 40% of girls do so.) I think the data is suspect because back then this was a taboo topic no one would admit to. (The joke was that 95% of boys masturbate and the other 5% are lying.)

    Today, I suspect the numbers are closer to parity, but even so, boys on the whole tend to have a somewhat higher sex drive than girls do, in part driven by the way testosterone works.